k_tyrant_of_rmSelf k_rmSelf_vs_xpSelf … k_mellow
By “burn or rot” I mean something specific. We each get some hours of spare time in a day. You can either use the time productively (burn) or let it slip through your fingers and drip down the drain (rot).
Here, I don’t include the “booked” time we have limited control over, such as commute, or paying bills.
So what spare time usages make me feel burning?
- tech xx — body-building
- finmath xx ? I feel less confident … long shot
- physical workout
- resume improvement
- work from home, so I can feel less guilty “loafing” in office next day
- going to office on weekends. I always end up more productive even if only slightly, because there’s no family distraction.
Therefore, with a block of free time, I would rather spend it on 2 and 5, away from the distraction. 95% of the burn is related to self-care, including self-improvement and body-building. This is /deep in my psyche/.
80% of the effort to help boy and family don’t feel like burning, but boy is “burning”!
Below are some of the “burning” things that I failed to recognize.
- help out at home? A duty. It really makes wife feel better
- grocery shopping with boy
- learning new gadgets? The personal productivity apps can actually help professional and personal growth, but I don’t feel that way!
- compare to learning IDE
- expense tracking? I need to be objective and recognize the need to do this
- financial planning, short or long term. Important but I probably spend too much time
- help boy with renzi, piano, weight loss, including blogging
Now here are some of the controversial spare time usages, ranked by the amount of time
- outing with boy, as big reward
- boy character building (including blogging) — time consuming but See https://btv-open.dreamhosters.com/2016/04/04/time-poorly-spent-helping-boy-with-study/
- read Chinese stories to boy, since he’s not willing to read by himself
Combined, I feel I spend about half of my disposable time on boy, including half-day outings and hours spent reading Chinese. So far, I don’t really feel productive (burning). Need to resolve. Either recognize it as burning or recognize it as rotting and correct it.