Tag: t_joltParenting

wordy problems: as academic as作文exam

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In terms of practical values:

  • 2-star: if he doesn’t like Chinese compo and puts in no effort, I am not so worried.
    • As a pupil, I too found certain subjects completely boring and useless — politics, Chinese, biology. Most of my classmates felt the same about English, history, and trigo. So we were not motivated to memorize or practice.
  • 3-star: But wordy problems are somewhat impractical, kinda contrived. Why the hell do I worry so much?
  • 4-star: if he doesn’t develop the “vision” in geometry, I worry about his …
  • 5-star: If he doesn’t like arithmetic and puts in no effort, I worry about his foundation skills.

However, I feel his biggest limitation is immaturity — no inner drive to overcome the basic laziness that’s inherent in every person.

jolt: Since P2 I have realized that the Chinese composition requirement is unrealistic for many kids. Too much pressure. Now I feel the math wordy problems are highly contrived. Equation is the right method but not taught. Fuck the system!

Similarly, the PSLE science scoring system (keyword-based) is contrived and stupid.

The SG quantity of practice is possibly too much at Junior College level, even for a China high school student in 1991. (Will the U.S. quantity be more effective more appropriate for my son? ) Over 2 years, I gradually realized that my Singapore classmates mostly showed speed but shallow understanding in math and physics.

I feel IF my son shows enough understanding, but insufficient speed, I should avoid applying the SG exam standard.

If in another country the quantity/speed is 50% lower, he may be doing just fine. Perhaps at P3 he was at that position. So is he too slow at arithmetic? My assessment is, tragically, influenced by the Singapore exam system. I want to say fuck the Singapore exam system. Fuck the contrived wordy problems. If I spend some time analyzing quantity/speed (Not complexity) in U.S. P5 math exams (common standard?), I will get some idea what’s “normal” in another system.

Now I may need the inner strength to withstand the pressure from the Singapore school system. The streaming, the “caste”, the PSLE 3-digit scores,

 

e-games: not all created equal

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I told grandpa that he has a bias against Hongkongers. I too have a bias against e-games. Not all games are created equal, equally addictive, equally challenging, equally enjoyable,,

Boy won’t prefer a parent who is ignorant of the differences.

Bill Chen told me I need to understand the games before I comment on them.

 

over-confidence2″change” dabao #Ash.S 200w

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Ashish told me about an Indian Australian girl he dated remotely. She is overweight, but Ashish was extremely confident he could make her work out really hard and lose weight. Similarly, I was confident that I could control my kids’ screen addiction, diet, exercise etc. In reality, self-will is the dominant force. Coaching is conditional on the motivation of the student.

Confidence is generally a good thing, but unrealistic, naive confidence is the seed of MY deep pains. Confidence about how much influence you have over a family member is usually overconfidence. Overconfidence in parenting is common.

Many parenting cliches suggest that parents have the authority to influence (yes) and POWER (no) to control (no) their young children’s behavior, habits. Well, the only things that control children are prisons and mental institutions. (In contrast, schools and hospital wards do not have control.)

myth: U.S.parent`culture=weaker #lower@bmark

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My view of U.S. vs Chinese parenting culture/practices is biased.

I tend to feel U.S. one is weaker, ineffective and failing, but look at the output of these two parenting cultures. Out of 10,000 comparable (mostly white-collar or middle-class) families, the number of “successful” (beyond grades) adult children is not higher among the Chinese. In fact, as soon as we look beyond standardized benchmarks, the comparative picture would be very very different between the two cultures.

Does boy need emotional support@@

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Elementary school kids need emotional support? Same commentator can say that my son needs help on math wordy problems.

But I realize that he has way more help than he needs. The only help he wants seems to be somebody to finish his homework so he could blindly copy without making any effort. Such help is unhelpful.

I think my son has a don’t-care attitude, therefore not so vulnerable.

##encouraging teachers #boy/yoga

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  • yoga teachers: Compared to the SG teachers, Bayonne teacher Ankur is more encourating on a weaker student
  • math teachers: Christine is more encouraging on a weaker student
  • piano teachers: The Filippino teacher is more lenient on a weaker student

I wonder if Ashish’s attitude on workout fits into the picture.

academically boy ibt(stronger)kids]Chn

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When we talk about the academic kids including a lot of China kids, we always feel they are superior. There’s not one measurable positive attribute I can point out about my son. This is completely lopsided.

Rationalize, Clarify and reinforce my observation:

  • his eng is better than 99% of China students;
  • his science is probably better than 51% of China students, partly due to British system and English vocab
  • his math is better than some rural China students who lack adequate learning resources including parents and tutors