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##what U r good@: U may perceive as important2everyone

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— eg: (OC) effectiveness through leadership vs individual effectiveness

  • “You can’t remain a hands-on non-lead developer past 40..”
  • “communication skill is more important than technical.”
  • “If you don’t deliver what the boss wants, then your hard work won’t be recognized” — is propagated by those who has that talent, like my ex-classmate lsagain.

— financial planning

  • eg : burn rate and non-work income — am good at these two fronts, so I consider them important to everyone. I still believe most people at my age struggle

I think ffree is indeed valuable to everyone, but my approach of ffree involves tough sacrifices like creature comfort, FOMO, and credit risk.

  • retirement planning — those who can claim how important it is for everyone
  • contingency reserve — those who has it claim how important it is for everyone. When disasters strike, this reserve is indeed important for everyone, but the unprepared still survive.

— wellness:

  • eg: yoga  — The practitioners believe from young kids to older adults, daily yoga practice is often required…
  • eg: BMI green zone — since I found a winning formula, I now advocate various fasting schemes
  • eg: daily exercise — some 4% of the population can work out 4 times a week and then believe it is important for everyone. Jenny Lu (MS) .. dev-till-70: 7external inputs
  • eg: longevity lifestyle — those who are able to follow such a (strict) lifestyle often advocate the importance of longevity, but for some people, the prospect of dying at 66 is not so regretable.
  • eg: healthy cooking — those who can cook claim we are what we eat…

— economy

  • eg: those countries able to “get into” life science claim that this industry is vitally important.
  • eg: those countries able to secure a strategic position in energy sector claim that energy security is about our survival.
  • eg: those countries able to maintain a strategic role in upstream digital transformation or knwoledge economy claim that it is the future.

— Other examples:

  • The citizens of China … boast of the advantages of “大国“.
  • eg: harmonious family, family activities — those who can achieve it often claim how important it is.
  • eg: “A happy child makes a hapy family”
  • eg: “train your kids from very young age to be independent”
  • eg: weekly 2-partner private time, common interest within a spouse… —
  • eg: “Every adult should learnt to drive, learn to cook”
  • eg: humor, joking is so very important…

SG^U.S.math++ heavy practice4 exam!!concept

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Q: am I more focused on grades or concept?
A: At P2, I used to focus on concepts. Now I feel focusing on concepts probably means he won’t get the marks. To get the marks, he has to endure uncomfortable amount of practice. See my chat with Sakamoto teacher…

I guess that many math fun learning websites (U.S., Australia…) probably focus on pupils’ interests (intrinsic motivation), not exams. I think exams in SG require much heavier tedious practice. To score in exams, you need speed, pattern-recognition, and avoiding mistakes at every step. You need lots of practice. 又快又准。

JackZ: Given your son’s lack of interest in wordy problems, U.S. culture would probably emphasize encouragement rather than forced practice.

Heavy homework, tough practice is actually common across U.S. schools such as my UChicago master’s program, but probably not common before high school.

In Singapore, it is quite heavy starting at Grade 4.

At the higher leve, proficiency is a requirement at the U.S. exams, similar to Singapore exams at the same level.

compar`math benchmarks SG^U.S.^Chn

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jolt: his math skills overall, if benchmarked in U.S., might be an A-.

His wordy problem performance might be B+.

His SG classmates’ math standard, if benchmarked in China, might be a B, because I know from experience that China’s math standard is higher.

China students would look down on these SG counterparts because “their tough problems are so easy for us. They are just hopeless.”

over-confidence2″change” dabao #Ash.S 200w

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Ashish told me about an Indian Australian girl he dated remotely. She is overweight, but Ashish was extremely confident he could make her work out really hard and lose weight. Similarly, I was confident that I could control my kids’ screen addiction, diet, exercise etc. In reality, self-will is the dominant force. Coaching is conditional on the motivation of the student.

Confidence is generally a good thing, but unrealistic, naive confidence is the seed of MY deep pains. Confidence about how much influence you have over a family member is usually overconfidence. Overconfidence in parenting is common.

Many parenting cliches suggest that parents have the authority to influence (yes) and POWER (no) to control (no) their young children’s behavior, habits. Well, the only things that control children are prisons and mental institutions. (In contrast, schools and hospital wards do not have control.)

yoga = different from stretch` #goal

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I have a American book on everyday stretches in the office..

  • diff: availability of teachers and classes
  • Diff: breathing is central to many if not all yoga practices
  • Diff: In terms of goal, yoga is NOT so focused on reaching a particular range of motion. For me, I don’t aim at that at all, though I may achieve that as a by-product.
  • Diff: hard stretch for athletes and dancers often feel like painful tortures. I now believe yoga should NEVER feel torturous. You need effort, not brute force willpower.

mild scoliosis

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x-ray shows a very mild scoliosis, not reportable. “reduced lumbar lordosis” is the note by the expert at Raffles Medical.

Master Saumik said twist and backbend would help straighten the spine. I believe him. Doctor said sitting posture and yoga would help.

Without a conscious effort, aging could worsen it? Doctor said should not.

Taking the x-ray turns out to be a worthwhile experience. A yoga master’s comment can be less reliable than I believed. This experience /calibrates/ my own “system” as to the level of confidence and credibility to be assigned to each expert.

In 5 years I may appreciate the heads-up by Saumik.

 

##[19] random adversities: coping strategies+outcomes

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Many random adversities fall on us throughout our everyday lives… Each individual is better at handling some categories of adversities.  Can we learn from each other the coping strategies .. such as my SMS self-talk and expressive writing?

  • [:) = “lucky” or “coping very well” ]
  • [+/-G3 = one of the best/worst 3 adversities that I have to handle]
  • [f=fake crises]
  • +G3 school problems.. Looking back at MSFM and earlier schools, i had relatively few problems.
    • huge t-spend
    • 🙂 difficulty in the subject
    • 🙂 distraction
    • Yixin need to learn the coping strategies … what are they?
  • +G11 loss of drive on self-learning (coding drill, QQ..)
  • +G7 regular workout can generate many unpleasant surprises … but laziness lead to long-term wellness deterioration.
    • Also, exercise (incl yoga) make us feel mentally stronger against other adversities
  • medical issues (esp. with babies and aged) are inevitable
    • 🙂 sexual health issues are very common .. we are lucky
  • +G11 immigration problems .. so far I handled them well .. inner strength
  • +G11 criminal charge, credit history blemish.. I panicked then I asked around for advice, and gathered evidence
  • – G7 in-law communication problems
  • – [f] gadget anxiety — consumer technology (gadgets, services) can generate frustrations, regrettable buys … complexity.. a necessary evil
  • 🙂 credit card — credit score, missed payment…a necessary evil
  • car ownership can generate more surprises than walking or biking..
    • car wear-n-tear
  • – [f] G22 old friends turning cold .. i tend to take it personally and and feel bad
  • – [f] loss of belongings
  • +G7 /investment woes/ … my worries are proportional to the exposure. I have coped well with them so far .. personal strength
  • +G3: job market “realities” — kind of builds my strength, a parachute giving me lots of confidence and freedom from care
  • – G1: negative review -> PIP — turned out to be my #1 heaviest Blow/fear