feeling sorry for yourself – by comparing with high flyers

It’s trap — It’s really easy to feel sorry/unlucky about yourself (and the kids – poor things that could get a materially better life??). Just compare with the “high earners”.

 

Endless pain.

 

I once felt unlucky I couldn’t meet a pretty woman. That’s my #1 dream. Now I have a wonderful wife!

 

I (and wife) once felt unlucky when we had difficulty conceiving. Now we have 2 beautiful kids.

 

Somehow I never feel like comparing with older or younger peers. I mostly benchmark with Chinese guys around my age. Fundamentally arbitrary. It’s nothing but excuses.

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visible high-paying jobs: tech vs management

In Singapore, most young developers aspire to move up and Away from hands-on technical work. Reason is culture, peer pressure, role models and also the global positioning of Singapore as a location — Singapore isn't a location for highly technical software development; US, Europe, perhaps India and Israel are.

Most Singapore developers probably see fewer good jobs on the technical ladder. On the management ladder, there are many so-so job opportunities, but also many attractive ones, which are highly visible to all.

In reality, invisible to many, there are a small number of technical role paying rather high.