good appetite could b a bad thing #Buddhist

See ##list of big addictions I am able to fend off. Today’s blogpost is first and foremost about appetite:

  • In my twilight years, I wish to have a good appetite to enjoy healthy food.
  • At my current age, a lower appetite is life-enhancing. Out-of-control appetite is currently a real problem for many.

At any age, appetite for unhealthy food is a sign of bad genes.  In reality, most foods fall into the grey area between healthy and unhealthy categories. In other words, moderate/controlled [2] amount of such foods are harmless to most healthy adults.

Problem is with the moderation and control. Most people don’t have enough of that, so even with the “grey” foods, we would overeat i.e. beyond what we know is good for our health.

I’m relatively lucky to enjoy a good-yet-under-control appetite.

— Buddhism advocates self-restraint
Q: Do you eat to live or live to eat? Some Buddhists would probably say “eat to live” as they eat the minimal amount just to stay healthy. They are at the polar opposite of “Live life to the fullest/You only live once” types.

Availability^fullness: Hunger #supper

All of the efforts in calorie restriction, weight mgmt… has one key obstacle — hunger. The sensation of hunger, while simple on the surface, is actually quite complex. From decades of self-observation I have concluded  that my hunger depends on ..

— AA) it depends on the homeostatic hunger + physical fullness of stomach for one hours after a meal (or 2-3 hours after a huge meal). This fullness is 90% calorie-based. Fiber (+ expanding chia) fullness is short-term (therefore less effective) in my psychophysiological system.

So this initial period is “protected” by the physical fullness, protected from the hunger sensation. After the initial period (which is 90% of the waking hours), my stomach is physically neither full nor extremely empty [1]. Under these conditions, my psychophysiological system often sends the hunger signal or the not-really-hungry signal. The deciding factor is often external to the digestive system.

In my diet period, my stomach is seldom 30% full before the warrior meal. Fullness is a missing protection.

Sudden change in daily workout level often has a noticeable effect on this hunger.

[1] when did I feel extremely empty? Basically never in my life. Perhaps a 48-hour fast would give me that experience.

— BB) my hunger depends 90% on availability … Daily battle.

  • For example, if I’m jogging, or cycling long distance, then 80% of the time I feel I can easily last a few hours without eating any solid food.
  • Another powerful example is my morning experience. Whether I have last eaten at 8pm or 1am, the morning stomach sensation is usually similar. The sensation depends mostly on availability.

Availability of unexpected enticing foods in a stash is particularly hard to manage.

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I would say AA and BB are fairly orthogonal, but the factors below are not.

c) My hunger increasingly depends on stress… eg: Mentally demanding work [such as work projects or coding] lead to stress that increases the effect of AA and BB, but even when I’m physically full, without lots of enticing foods visibly present, stress can creates the hunger signal almost out of thin air. This can happens when my stomach is physically half full or full, though seldom when it’s very full.

d) prolonged_separation from a particular food usually intensifies its attraction. This hunger-factor amplifies BB.

Again, no such effect when I’m very full.

i) a rare but revealing factor is sickness.

These factors interact. For example, in the face of mild temptations, an empty stomach would intensity the temptation.

Because of the Availability factor, my top guidelines for diet are

  • avoid the sight of food at the wrong time. Get away from family at dinner time
  • don’t eat when not hungry — easier said than done
  • delay meals as much possible. A form of intermittent diet
  • Before going to a place of temptation, try to fill the stomach. It is proven effective.
  • Before going home need to eat up to 90% and pray it is effective. 
  • Sometimes need to eat a regular hawker meal before going home.

Fiber, protein, chia seeds, … all target hunger, but they only target the “fullness”, and missed the elephant in the room i.e. Availability.

— my late-night big supper habit ..  Is it a wrong-time temptation? No I do feel hungry, even in the absence of food temptations. If no temptation, I tend to feel confident to cope with this hunger.

If not hungry but I still eat a high-calorie, heavy dinner, the next morning I can still get Really hungry ! This confirms my observation that calorie-induced (“genuine”) hunger is largely driven by timing, instead of calorie balance. Basically, the gap between the early dinner and the morning meal is too long.

The best thing to do is to refuse to eat anything if not hungry. Remove any temptation and resist.

save time to do __ #longer sleep

k_rmSelf_vs_xpSelf

eg: Many people want faster intimacy. They want to save time for something else, but what can be more enjoyable?

eg: I often regret spending too much with my son on the renzi trips. I wanted to save time for other things like study, work, recreational reading.. YY.T probably wanted to save time for work and workout. However, other parents enjoy those parent-child bonding trips and therefore they would rather save time for that.

eg: on a vacation, we get up early and move fast, saving time to see more places, but I told my wife doing that sacrifices sleep and leisure. We would end up saving time to get ourself tired and overstimulated.

I think the xpSelf would want to slow down and enjoy the good times, but the rmSelf would want to hurry up, move quickly and “achieve” more.

eg: The ERE author questioned after achieving freeom from financial constraints, we are “free to do …?”

— envy those 5H^9H sleepers

When I first came to SG, I was shocked that my HCJC classmates could make do with 6H sleep. I envied them because “having more disposable hours certainly enabled them to enjoy more, achieve more”, or so I thought. I felt that my 2H extra sleep was like 2H wasted on commute or in prison. There are many people in my age group who slept much less than me, and I started associating shorter sleep with exclub.

Case in point .. In my late 20s ML.Jiang introduced me to meet a Singaporean young businessman. (I later introduced Philip Che to meet him, and he used the phrase “领头羊” [bellwether].) He said he slept 5 hours a day, but he also said he had to bear with a chronic headache for years. What a tough time for his xpSelf !

Now in my late 40s I envy those who can sleep 9H. They get to enjoy more rest. The xpSelf enjoys the extra sleep. I now want longer sleep hours, not shorter.

Q: if you sleep 9H/day on average, is your life 10% shorter than your twin sister who sleeps 6H/day (assuming comparable lifespan).

Q: do you count only the disposable hours? I don’t. Sleep hours can be a pleasure just like meditation, slow dining, sexual intimacy, or play time with kids

— longer sleep= sign@wealth, NOT coblood loss

Like straight teeth, clear skin, and slimness, longer sleep is another sign of (personal or community) wealth.

Note I’m saying “wealth” instead of “wellness”. See Health-is-wealth: wrong priorities

fiber=good4 .. health !!satiety

See also hedonic^homeostatic hunger

All weight-loss manufacturers agree that dietary fiber plays a big part in satiety, but I think fiber’s contribution to satiety is overrated. Product vendors often show a simplistic view (presumably in a dumbing-down effort) — adding 5% more fiber to their product would make the product healthier, slimming, ,more effective,

Fiber doesn’t help satiety, in my personal experience, but it probably does have many health benefits.

 

— ice beats fiber, for satiety .. When it comes to satiety, there’s a more effective low-calorie ingredient — ice, esp. in smoothies

 

 

Paul Allen’s life^mine #Jobs

Jobs had a shorter life than P.A. His xpSelf had less enjoyment.

Jobs also had less wealth than P.A. for most of his lifetime, but did he need that wealth?


k_Kahneman

Q: Do I prefer P.A’s life or my healthy, uneventful life? (If the latter, then how about Jobs’ life?) Do I want my kids to have my kind of life or his kind of life? A contrast between xpSelf vs the evaluative rmSelf.

I feel Paul.Allen had a relatively short but full life. Paul had a wide range of ambitions. Unlike other people, P.A had the resources and Time to pursue them. He even turned a few into reality. Overall, I won’t trade places with him, definitely not for good — I won’t trade AA) my healthy mediocre life for BB) his life. His life was presumably fulfilling to the evaluative rmSelf, but no it’s not a life I prefer. In that bold statement, I choose to reject the Evaluation (of the rmSelf).

SuccessL — Goals, purposes, ambitious  are good and noble. They give meanings to a life. They are fundamental to a fulfilling (purposeful, productive) life. SuccessL is the flip side of my rejection. Jobs and P.A seem to have successL but who knows in 200 years?

Between AA and BB, which life would I want my kids to Live?  AA. I would rather my kids be mediocre [碌碌无为, 一事无成] but enjoy a healthy /uneventful/ long life.

— Family .. is a primary source of happiness (xpSelf) and fulfilment (rmSelf) for most of us, not P.A. He never married and had no children. There was no well-known long-term relationships with either a woman or man.
— health issues.. P.A lived with long-term conditions since age 29. His cancers were (successfully) treated at 30 and 56, but eventually killed him at age 65.

Did he (xpSelf) suffer too much? Not sure. Luckily, he didn’t subject his loved ones to psychological pains — he had no kids or partner.

deserved much more time .. Somehow, D.Kahneman’s account about evaluation of a life story seem to suggest that many people would pay attention to the quality (esp. the ending) of his life. I don’t Feel that way.

I Feel his life is too short. Bill Gates said “Paul loved life… He deserved much more time.”.. the amount of experienced wellbeing. I agree with D.Kahneman that Duration Neglect is a serious disservice to the xpSelf. The xpSelf deserves many decades of fulfilling life on earth.

While it’s possible (5% chance?) Paul didn’t want to live 10Y more given the chronic conditions, my analysis of chronic conditions makes me doubtful. I think he was very used to his chronic conditions and wanted to live 10Y or 20Y more. He probably battled his cancer rather than giving up. Paul struck me as a courageous dreamer and doer. He probably wanted to get more done (just like my dad) or enjoy a healthy longevity.
— paradox .. factual vs imagined historical figure
I have read about Paul Allen a few times, a few minutes each time. I do want to understand Paul Allen’s life if I have the bandwidth, but most likely I won’t have it. My life is too short and there are too many things to read. Therefore, paradoxically it’s a good thing that P.A is (gone and) not a news maker like Musk, Trump, actors… I don’t feel the compulsion [due diligence] to gather more Facts. I don’t need more Facts! What I’m discussing here is an imagined version of Paul Allen. The real P.A is much more complex.

too many(Tag^Category)s #keyword-search

 


Too many categories — is a worse problem than “too-many-tags”. In many case (like assigning a category) I need to scroll a long list of categories.

Q: how many tags would be too many in a big blog?

A: 300. Too many would slow down auto-suggestion when I am in a hurry

A: biggest problem is when two tags have overlapping meanings, so 8 out of 10 under Tag1 also has Tag2. For tags, overlap is a bigger problem than proliferation, so lots of fuxi* or upto* tags are not so bad.

[[lifespan development]]: job competency

Lifespan development, as a subdomain of psychology, is centered on the self, rather than OC-effective, leadership, soft skills, communications, organization, interpersonal, and all the things emphasized in the corporate world. However the domain relies on objective, evidence-based, data-based looko methodology, rather than introspection.

Lifespan dev is fundamentally a comparative study of segments of the entire human population. There is often special attention on disadvantaged segments.

Lifespan dev is about self-mastery but more than that.

Lifespan dev is about personal and family wellbeing, not so much about community wellbeing.

— On-the-job effectiveness .. not a central theme in this domain, but examined as as a foundational factor in personal wellbeing. There’s no prejudice against the individual-contributor. In fact, many individual contributors derive more wellbeing from the same employer than some managers do.

The textbook provides a comprehensive framework. Based on this framework, I think other (possibly more fundamental) factors include:

  • (G3:=a top-3 factor)
  • G2 wellness and healthcare support
  • G7 stress coping capacity and habit; resilience
  • G3 family .. harmony, family support
  • education .. as a life chance determinant
  • G5 occupation .. (distinct from on-the-job effectiveness)  a meaningful, desirable job as reliable source of income, self-esteem, a vocation AND an occupation

##wkend ff trip=值得even if!!work done

Even if I don’t actually work for more than 2 minutes on a weekend trip to office, it is still a good habit, because …
benefit: the trip creates the opportunity to work. Beside work,

  • benefit: better workout facilities than at home. At home I could do the same workouts, but less likely [less motivation, more resistance, more obstacles,,,]
  • benefit: easier diet control in office … still true in 2022
  • benefit: superior blogg infrastructure, including aircon
  • benefit: I could call Beijing more easily… rather important to the old parents

Although smallish in each item, these tiny benefits count during my current ezlife phase. They add up to a real Lifestyle 升

Similarly, Parents often buy gears to create the opportunity for kids to discover a personal interest.

Similarly, I told many friends that I often go to stadium without a target of how much workout I must complete. Instead, I go there to create the opportunity for myself.

tough@phone: articulate reason2earn cooperation #out@basecamp

Precious — as of today (29 Nov, Aunt Gen’s birthday) boy still accepts my tough policy on iphone8.

Boy’s cooperation and concession must be earned.

— Highest priority: hand_in_hand.. if wife agrees with my policy 100% then boy will accept much better.

— priority: consistency
LKY said he has been consistent throughout the years, so people know what he is like.

— priority: clarity
At his age, he deserves to hear clear reasons and guidelines. Without them, it’s hard to earn his cooperation and respect.

— why I don’t want to bother to earn his cooperation or give a reason
This phone argument has turned out to be more costly more harmful than we assumed. See

Therefore, earning his cooperation is not to be done in my base camp !