the cool, posh, well-connected power elites #G.Maxwell

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ghislaine_Maxwell is linked to father https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Maxwell and partner https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeffrey_Epstein, two fraudsters.

Q: how reliable, how accurate is the wikipedia content? Legal case details there in should be reliable.

Even though G.Maxwell is more of a socialite, somehow these individuals remind me of the (all-male) high-flyers in and outside my /circle/:

  • the MDs, the CTOs, the executives
  • the bbcy enterpreneurs or executives
  • the start-up legends
  • ##[20] Stealth-overtake since1998 described others types of enviable high-flyers
  • ^^ 95% of the time, I have precious little knowledge, insight about these mere /acquaintances/

Look at G.Maxwell’s photo on wikipedia… posh, graceful, sophisticated and highly educated, gentle, well-spoken, upper-class, almost manipulative. (In contrast, my wife is simple, unsophisticated, not highly educated, and lower-middleclass.)

The fact that she is associated with two fraudsters didn’t bother me, because so many people and the mass media held her in high regard, given her education and business success.

I have always seen myself as a socially awkward nerd, a /minion/ on the slow track, out of limelight, without ambition and (after q3SG episode) without a promising future.

From my (low) /standpoint/viewpoint/perspective/, I have always admired the grace, the interpersonal/networking skills, the business skills of those high-flyers.

Well, I have zero understanding of the darker sides of those “advantages”. Essentially these individuals tend to have too much power [clout, prestige, position, credentials,,,]. Using this power, these smooth operators seek even more power and wealth, hungrier than before.

On the other side of the coin, the power corrupts them. A pure and simple heart is rare among the power elite of politics and business. (Pat.Liew) I think the iBank MgD are similar. If you aren’t hungry for power, then quit this game.

(Talking about “power… In the same vein, every Chinese communist party official is viewed as corrupt. They had too much power and not enough counterbalance for that power such as indepdent judiciary, free media, or opposition parties. )

After q3SG my self-image has remained, but my evaluation thereof has improved.

— communication skill, As XA.S mentioned in the 2000s, this skill is widely seen as more important, more valuable, more strategic than IV skills, GTD skills..

Posh .. is largely based on oral English. I remember a tall middle-aged shop owner/manager in Paragon, with a Singaporean posh accent. I guess he is proud of his location in Paragon. I can’t imagine (but there are) power elites having limited English proficiency. The elite status is mostly about appearance.

BMI > flexible > strength > CRE

 


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  • After the meet-up with YY.T, I realized CRE fitness (or speed) is not a priority to me. Longevity > freedom from illness > intimacy > good sleep and appetite
    BMI .. seems to be a key indicator/predictor of many of the above.
  • As of Mar 2022,free_from_ill > BMI green zone > ▲ full-body esp. upper-body strength relative to body weight > flexible >▼CRE ..
  • As of Dec 2021, free_from_ill > healthy_longevity > BMI > ▲ flexible > ▲ strength > ▼CRE
  • As of Jul 2021, free_from_ill_health > healthy_longevity > BMI green zone > ▲flexible > ▼endurance > ▲strength .. identical to 2018 !
  • As of 2020, freedom_from_ill_health > healthy_longevity > endurance > strength > flexible
  • As of Jan 2019, I have achieved the greatest success in weight, and I was making the biggest effort (against greatest resistance) in flexibility
  • As of 2018, If I must chose between the two, in 2018 I would choose to prioritize flexibility over bodyweight. I conceived this pyramid of fitness priorities in July 2018:
  1. weight? Affects endurance, strength, flexibility, speed, leaping, …
  2. Y-junction (central) flexibility? toughest to improve. Central means lower waist till thigh. All other parts are much, much, much, , much, much better in terms of my gap behind other (mostly female) yoga students. See ##toughest yoga poses ranked
  3. stamina in heart and lung etc
    • depends on weight
    • less visible, less keenly felt as a weakness
    • easier to improve and maintain, due to my absorbency advantage.
  4. strength (including muscle endurance) relative to weight. See notes below
    1. depends on weight
  5. speed of distance running; leap length/height
    • depends on weight

 

Even though my shoulder joint is unable to extend up to 180 degrees, it’s not preventing any yoga poses. It only makes “poor form” or forces me to take on modified poses. In contrast, my Y-junction inflexibility does render some yoga poses unattainable.

▲ means “gaining relative mindshare now than earlier”
▼ means “losing mindshare but still important (usually)”

This blogpost is mostly about my personal priorities. How about the priorities for my son/daughter (or a family member or a colleague/friend)? That priority list is usually BMI > CRE > strength > flexibility. Note BMI is the most important wellness factor for my family.

— aspect: intimacy … sexual gratification and longer active sex life…  sometimes more important to me than improving BMI to 64 kg. If BMI improvement affect my intimacy, then let go of the BMI. My intimacy is more important.

— aspect: healthy appetite.. Losing your healthy appetite, and becoming someone like grandpa in his late 80s, can reduce your BMI, but do you want that?

During my covid infection, I lost appetite and BMI, but it is not worth it.

— aspect: Freedom from ill health
“Freedom” includes things like immunity, recovery, and karma. The perspective is shorter-term and slightly more achievable and predictable than longevity.
— aspect: longevity
longevity-but-in-poor-health is not really my goal.
— aspect: stamina [endurance/CRE//]
Jolt: endurance .. also required in yoga, chin-up, jump-rope etc, and has a massive psychological impact.

“Fitness” is vague and means slightly more than stamina. Stamina means cardio-respiratory endurance (CRE) to me. For me, fitness (and also most strengths) is measured against body weight.

— aspect: muscle mass and Strength, esp. against body weight
Strength is slightly more than muscles strength. Muscle mass is a low priority to me.

Amputation can “improve” your BMI but do you want it?

(Note muscle mass vs body fat .. is a recurring debate, but body fat is hard to measure.)

Those (sportspeople) who gain muscle mass often have a hard time maintaining BMI in old age.

For bone health and some other elements of health, adequate muscle strength is crucial.

Plank and other stationary exercises fall into the Strength category.

Many workout classes focus on minor muscles seldom exercised. I tend to think those are important and deserve some attention.

— the need to balance enjoyments with wellness priorities
some people (mostly men) enjoy muscle training and nothing else .. I think some Americans do. It can affect BMI and flexibility, two of the most important aspects of wellness. I am unlikely to become bulky, but flexibility is a traditionally neglected area.

some people enjoy jogging and nothing else. It can lead to loss of flexibility and muscle as we age.

Some women do mostly yoga including some limited strength training, so they lack CRE. Therefore, some combine yoga with cardio.

Ideally, you would want to enjoy a range of workouts, but few individuals are so lucky. For every adult and child, consistent workout is repetitive and requires a lot of effort and absorbency. Team sports and golf are more fun but requires a lot of external help.

Yoga trains some less-used muscles and includes many stationary exercises.

— Q: which aspect is easiest to accumulate? Stamina
Q: which are the easiest to lose? BMI
Q: which are the easiest to rebuild/recover? Strength

— Q: which aspect generates the most reassurance? free_from_ill_health;
Q: which component has the biggest weightage in overall self-esteem/self-confidence? BMI

==== Aging .. Even though ▲flexibility is the weakest weakness and #1 area that needs the most ‘sunshine’, I still need to work on stamina, muscle strength etc as I age.

As we age, each part of the engine must be kept in working condition, including the more durable parts (probably heart and bones).

BMI wellness would show declines in both sexes, affects stamina, strength, and flexibility.

Stamina is 80% heart and lung, but joints and bones also need continuous /boost/ and strengthening through strength training. I feel positive that I have a natural advantage in stamina, but stamina needs active maintenance.

I think 1) muscle and 2) flexibility are likely to experience the most declines.  You will always see exceptions, but those rare cases can be misleading and /breed/ a sense of complacency, a false sense of /invincibility/ and overconfidence

— upper body strength relative to weight, as we age
As we age, lower body strength is easier to maintain, thanks to climing, jogging, cardios (predominantly leg work). In contrast, upper body muscles are almost never deployed to support FULL body weight, except in 1) chin-up 2) dip. Therefore, as we age, we would lose these abilities quite early. I have many male colleagues to tell me “At my age I can’t do chin-up any more.

In late 2021, I met a group of body builders at the Blk 79A exercise corner. I think they have lean muscles, strengths, balance, but how about upper body strengthRelative2Weight? I would guess that for most of them, as they age the bulky muscles are likely to become a problem rather than an asset.  Bodybuilders, boxers, weight lifters tend to become overweight in older age.

Similar to flexibility, upper body strength training (esp. chin-up) is less sustainable, more boring than outdoor cardio, or lower-body strength training. It requires more /absorbency/, sunshine. Classes could help. See chin-up #muscle-up

burnOrRot =successZ+C #

k_tyrant_of_rmSelf  k_Promethean_struggle .. k_def_of_success

In a way, burn often focuses on quardrant-II [non-urgent-but-important], the tough jobs that deserve lots of sunshine….

When thinking in terms of burn/rot, there is always a harsh, imposing self2judge at the back of my mind. This self2judge maintains a destructive self-hate, and implicitly considers self1 too lazy and weak… No surprise, because by my superhuman standard every human shows visible weaknesses.

  • I beat myself up over coding drill
  • I beat up my son over his math practice
  • I beat myself up over fried potato chips

(I also demonized masturbation, egg yolk …. all based on unfounded health theories.)

I used to set an self-expectation of such high self-discipline that every human would Fall short, including grandpa, Wenqiang, .. but I thought my standard was normal and achievable if I simply Try Hard. Now I’m older and wiser. I know these standards are too hard for mere humans. We humans are not machines.  No one has such strong will as to force the body to do all the painful things. In real people, the strong motivation comes from within, from a desire, not from harsh self-discipline.

If the wellspring, the flame, the pulse inside a student is insufficient, then neither parent, teacher or herself can force it with willpower.

successZ+successC => burn = materialisticRoti+selfDiscipline… I think this is a pretty good characterization of the vague concept of “burn”. Now I think my sense of ‘burn’ is always a mix of strenuous [1] self-discipline over the lazy self + [2] materialistic ROTI.

As a consequence, when I’m focused on successE [carefree ezlife, wellness, harmony…], I don’t feel the burn.

Note successZ is more than zqbx! Therefore, t_zqbx has a only a partial overlap with t_burnOrRot.

[1] Without the self-discipline, I don’t feel the burn.  Absorbency and zqbx are similar phrases
[2] I didn’t say “strategic”
— Bigger Eg: My diet is arguably the best eg — so tough, unenjoyable, b
ut I could put up with it because my level of suffering is lower than other people feels. If you ask me to cut further and further, I will experience too much “pain” in terms of self-deprivation.
— Bigger Eg: Yoga is another unimaginable achievement — a physical shortcoming, painful, hopeless, no visible progress, No hope of sustained improvement, therefore a /Promethean torment/

In lower-middle school, I beat myself up over stretching. One of The earliest and most painful experience of my life. Today, I still hate myself frequently because I couldn’t get myself to “practice yoga at home everyday”. Well, those (mostly women) who can are probably too weak for daily exercise, continuous learning, …See  girls with Grade-A flexibility

Now, against all odds, I did 2 sessions a week for 8 months in Bayonne.

Willpower is NOT the catalyst.
— Eg: How about early rise? In 1993 I once beat myself up for not getting up by 6am. For 25 years since, it was impossible to keep up early rise beyond 10 days. Now I have lasted about 2 months !

Self-discipline and brute force willpower has Never been the turning point in early rise.
— eg: jolt: self-care blogging under stress — requires effort to become effective, but I often think of it as indulgence. It has high ROTI (just not materialistic).

Self-care blogging often generates self-hate ! Unfair. I deserve more tender care and sympathy.
— eg: coding drill: I guess many of my friends don’t enjoy it as they feel high effort low chance of ROTI.

Contrast Ashish and Deepak who keep practicing. Even if chance of passing is rising slowly, thhe practice slows down the decline.
— eg: reading about Sec1 posting — feels thankless and no “burn”. Requires effort but there’s no materialistic ROTI !

[21]shift`fixations since q3SG #othRisk

It takes too much time to keep this list. In each item, there are too many important details.. like pulling out a thread from a knitted sweater:( … Once I start pulling I can’t stop pulling.

  • [early 2016] renzi
  • [mid 2016] boy ownership, heavy workload, efficiency, kiasu parents,
  • personal finance, including bx and property investment
  • [Mar – Sep 2016] fitness including yoga
  • [Sep 2016] (after coming back from Beijing trip) marriage – risk of break-up
  • [m] UChicago
  • [m] c# body building —- ended in 2013. I tried several US jobs.
  • Saxo/Oanda —- subsided after my Saxo options expired in Nov 2015. Failed experiment
  • [!m] FSM —- more than 3H/week for most of 2013 – 2016
  • boy Eng reading —- Late 2014, before his P1, we enrolled in Mind Stretcher and KentRidgeTutors. In P1, we engaged home tutor mostly for English reading (and writing).
    • [m] renzi —- In P2, my focus shifted to renzi. I brought boy out on weekends to read on MRT or in library. Very poor ROTI.
    • ownership^bmark —- initiative, efficiency, study habits … was a focus since early 2016.
  • [m] Jill’s, BGC and Phnom Penh — minor focuses
  • b@a —- dominant focus after the chat with Ilya Oct 2014 – Mar 2015. Went to office on many weekends
  • post-b@a —- dominant focus Mar – May 2015
  • ramp-up at Macquarie —- major focus for Jun – Dec 2015. Weekends…
  • H1 —- dominant focus from Dec 2015 to Mar 2016. This includes all the analysis, discussions and decision-making.
  • yoga —- became a minor focus in Feb 2016. Took up lots of time and energy.
  • unstable marriage for a few weeks after waigong came.
  • Boy fitness —- signed up with flexifitness in Jul.
    • [m] my jogging —- I started jogging with them then with Ashish. My ROTI is excellent. This also includes yoga and swim.
  • [m=measurable target]

In hind sight, overspent on boy, investment, basically same tendency in HIS19 !

most folks=non-committal about longevity

A bold claim — most folks are not serious, /non-committal/ about healthy [1] longevity. I was just like everyone else, until my focus started shifting towards wellness.

See also the blogpost about “secret wish for a painless death at an earlier age than 90s.”

Re the conversation with HF.Sun, the conversation with Tanko (about my age).

One of the fundamental attitudes (about longevity) is AAA/no-pleasure — Q: do you cherish and guard the no-pleasure /condition/, such as

  • no pleasure in .. alcoholic drinks, sugary drinks, durian
  • no pleasure in .. gaming, which tends to derail/disrupt a healthy lifestyle including relationships and support network

This fundamental attitude can have a subconscious (therefore fundamental) impact on everyday choices. Choice often entails sacrifice, trade-offs, priorities.

[1] Un-Healthy longevity is out of scope, obviously.

 

[18]USD 10k to hit+keep63kg #Kyle

As I told Kyle,

You can’t swipe a credit card to buy weight improvement. Both calorie restriction and workout are daily battles to be fought day in, day out, both very very hard, requiring unrelenting discipline for a long long time.

In 2017 I asked myself, hypothetically, how much I was willing to spend if there were a way to buy “63 kg”. 63 kg was my lowest weight since 1991 when I came to Singapore and grew heavy. I decided at least USD 10k. As of Dec 2018, I achieved that goal with an expensive shift of focus. My MS work actually suffered from de-focus.

In Jan 2019, a few days before my birthday, I asked myself “How much are you willing to spend if there were a way to buy 60 kg and maintain it for 3 months?” I would say at least another USD 10k, because I now realize how hard it is to maintain 63kg.

Now I think two commercial offerings can help ease the struggle

  1. fancy foods such as whey and fruits
  2. personal trainer to manage the motivation and provice professional guidance

family outing #random reflections

Family outing is high “cost”. Almost everyone involved is busy and each has to make adjustments to make it happen.

For years, I resented the huge hours lost after a movie — time spent shopping or at nearby playgrounds. I realized that after a family movie, I should go straight home. Then in 2022 I slowly changed my behavior. After a Stadium trip, we spent hours in Decathlon.
Around Xmas 2022, we went to IMM to buy a pair of shoes but spent 5 – 8 hours there ! Still regretful but less painful.

13 Nov family outing trip was very low productivity, “rot”.
Somehow I avoided the burn-rot trap of self-hate.
I used to be a hostage. The high standad of productivity was simply unrealistic with family outing.

In contrast, I think a corporate team-building event could be (would be) benchmarked for efficiency, but that’s for the organizer.
Most participants would be too relaxed and fail the benchmark.
Family members are more like the participants rather than the organizers.

— Travel with kids .. means loss of huge amount of precious private time. Quiet time at MRT is valuable. Even at bus stop i can read or use smemo

math: Chn students’ advtg=short-lived

Look at programming course. East Asian students don’t seem to have an edge over Americans.
Look at math. I believe East Asian students have an edge, but sometime during the 4Y in college (possibly starting in high school), in STEM courses American students somehow catch up to close the gap.

In the big picture, the math advantage is short-lived


Many say the Chinese students (including Singapore, HK …) are the smartest compared to Grade6 counterparts in other countries, largely due to their math standard. (More than other subjects, basic math is associated with IQ.) China students are traditionally known to be very strong in math “problem solving”, from primary school till pre-U level. If we take a random sample of 10,000 age-16 students from China to form a “China sample” and use a standardized test to grade them in A/A-/B+/B/C (not numerical score [1]), and repeat the same on a U.S. sample, and a Japan sample, and a German sample, … we get 150 national sample and a score for each country. Probably China team will be stronger than most teams. (I have reason to believe Russian team, Korean team, Singapore team will also be strong.)

[1] For the statistically inclined, the “score” is not a number, but rather a histogram. We can compare two histograms by their IQM or their median. We can even compare their mean since there can be no outlier in a letter-grade. Tthere’s no real difference between a score of 881 vs 882 — such granularity is completely misleading.

Now, how about programmers? If I take a random sample of 100 China-trained programmers (below age 28 [2]) and grade them on a standardized coding test, and repeat the same on a random U.S. sample or Australian sample… I believe China team will Not be so strong. Why? Below is my educated guesses.

(I will use “American students” as a proxy for students in developed western countries, where emphasis on math practice is much lower.)

My Answer — many American students before age 17 don’t bother to practice math problems as much as their China counterparts. (My son is this type. My sister’s Australian boyfriend Chris was this type when he was young.) They don’t see a purpose. If an American student and a China student are equally intelligent then the China students would end up practicing a lot more on math problems, and score higher. For a programmer, the American is equally motivated as the Chinese, so they put in similar effort.

My Answer — Also, China education system is academically more competitive. China’s top schools practice competitive enrollment. In American schools, before Grade 9, most exam scores don’t matter that much. Even at Grade 12 (last year of Pre-U), exam scores matter much less than in China. Most top colleges use national test scores as one of many selection criteria. Therefore, China students not only put up with a lot of practice, but also work hard to understand the concepts better, so they can cope with hard math exams. If we look at Google/Facebook coding interviews, competition is equally high for anyone, so the American programmer also feels motivated by the competition and works hard and competes effectively against Chinese programmers.

There’s a deep cultural factor that’s hard to describe fully — For centuries the Chinese family values education achievements more than other nationalities, esp. the visible signs of achievements like enrollment in a famous school, be it university, secondary school or a primary school. There’s enormous effort by parents, teachers and students to improve on standardized benchmark scores, something the American family don’t care that much and don’t put in so much effort. Therefore, at the middle-school level, the Chinese students have put in far more effort on math practice than the American students. As to programming skill …. well no such cultural factor… no prestige …

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By age 25, in the tech or scientific sectors, the Chinese young professionals are still strong, but not “head and shoulders above” the other nationalities.

Q: if indeed the China students were technically strong at age 16 but no longer so strong at age 25, then at what age did they start losing their lead? I know it’s a gradual process between age 18 and 25, but please pick one age.
A: I would say in college, around age 20, when other nationalities start seeing a purpose in working hard and /building technical competence/. That’s consistent with my own experience. My friend Jack He pointed out that in college, the Chinese parents can’t control them.

The math subject is the best example. (To a lesser extent, we can talk about science, too.) The Chinese students are strongest in these subjects. Note there’s no such advantage in performing arts, visual arts, sports etc.

Q: what if I grade those high school student samples on a reasonably tough programming test rather than math test?
A: I would think China team would show no visible superiority, since programming is not a subject they practice for. They don’t have 20 years of past exams to study. There’s no purpose in practicing on programming since this skill doesn’t help them get into top colleges.

Q: what if I grade the students on a physics test?
A: I would think China team is still strong if the test is mostly theoretical physics, but their advantage will be smaller than in math test. Math is more abstract than physics.

Q: what if I grade the student sample on a standardized chemistry exam?
A: I don’t know, but I doubt the China team would show superiority. Chemistry is even less abstract and theoretical.

Q: how about history?
A: Not a subject with an international benchmark

Observation — Many China schools have impressive track record in training students on theoretical, abstract subjects like math and theoretical physics.
Observation — For two equally intelligent students, motivation (and therefore effort) is the key differentiator
Observation — China students were motivated to study math at an earlier age. Other nationalities can catch up when they find the motivation.

Therefore, I now believe math (or any other subject) test scores in primary school, middle school, pre-U don’t matter as much as some Chinese parents believe. We have a cultural bias to place too much emphasis on test scores.

The statistical correlation between Grade-10 test score and college GPA is probably not very high. The mediocre American students can often catch up with Chinese students later on, perhaps in college (or after leaving college) and become equally strong technically. The American students’ talent is Not wasted in middle school or high school.

Last Observation — when the China student loses motivation, he would lose the competition. This is a marathon. 龟兔赛跑,可以后来居上。

What I want to focus on in my kids is not academic benchmark, but learning habits, motivation, self-discipline, desire to learn. These attributes had better get built-in at an early age.

[2] I put in this condition because among the U.S. programmers, there are many older ones.

— Why I pick programming as the contrast against math?

In this blogpost, I chose programming because programming skill is highly correlated with math skill. Among all the secondary school subjects, math skill has the highest correlation with programming skill. Is there another mainstream professional skill that’s more correlated with math? statistician? actuary? I’m unfamiliar with them, and programmers outnumber these professions by a factor of 500.

I chose “programming test” also because it’s easily standardized. All programmers are trained to solve the same classic computer science problems. Math and programming are both highly abstract and well-defined, so every programmer can understand a standardized coding question.

I chose “programming” also because it can be self-taught with little outside help. If you have a grasp of basic math, and plenty of motivation, you can read tons of free books and practice on hundreds of problems and improve effectively. I think millions of young programmers/students world-wide do precisely that on leetcode.

praises/Proud@My English proficiency

 


— praises on my oral English proficiency .. Over the years, many people (who had not seen my writing yet) say “You speak very good English.” Almost never flattery. When I mention that I still struggle from time to time, some of them would add “Of course English is your second language, so you would be more comfortable in Chinese. It’s natural to struggle in a second language.”  — This fact should NOT diminish my sense of achievement, self-esteem and pride.

Those praises together are a remarkable achievement even though the yardstick seems to be a lower yardstick — a yardstick for foreigners. The important thing is, I am able to use English effectively. Whether I’m more effective than a native speaker is insignificant. This is not a contest. Effective usage is the only yardstick, and accent is a small factor.

I could give the same sincere praise to my sister, some of my Indian colleagues and some European guys. They are very articulate.

— (historical zoom) Q: How critical was English during the early 2007 adaptation/adjustment [actually a struggle] to living in USA?

Luckily, in early 2007 my English proved adequate, thanks to the formal education in SG and on-the-job training in SG, and my years of self-practice in emails, in-depth discussions with non-Chinese friends.

From early 2007, I had no difficulty reading (any tough material) and .. listening [my traditional weakness]!

I was already a fairly fluent speaker in 2007. No one said I had a strong accent like half the subcontinent coworkers, whose /oral/ English was good enough for an offshore worksite. My Singapore/Malaysia/Hongkong accent was mild in contrast to millions of immigrants speaking English “dialects” of Eastern Europe, middle east, central Asia, S.E.Asia,,,,

In each ethnic group, some 5 to 20% [1] of the immigrants speak decent English, usually due to education, but conceivably due to everyday practice (without education) or untrained talent — consider my sister and my wife.

[1] Among the Mexican immigrants, that percentage is lower because proportionally many of them came in without a work visa or student visa.

Q: how did my wife cope with English?
A….

I have hitherto left out proficiency in writing. Not an “everyday” proficiency, more of an advanced skill. Challenging for most immigrants. Even native speakers (esp. the less educated) struggle with many non-trivial tasks. Writing is a trained skill like painting, piano, public speaking, …. Training takes years and generally, I learning English over the prior decades since 1991. Now in 2022, I consider myself “well-trained” as a writer, when benchmarked to the average native SPEAKER.

— One of my first milestones — After my farewell letter to Catcha colleagues, a short, young Indian girl colleague turned to me and and praised my writing. She was not technical but an editor of online content. She doesn’t know me well and I didn’t ask her opinion on my letter.

— Then I crossed a second milestone — Kyle said my English is better than a lot of Americans.

My discussions with Kyle was often conceptually complex … so vocab is important. I explained that I’m an intellectual type, like my dad.

good looks=often overrated #livelihood++

In terms of livelihood, Good looks are not as “valuable” or life-enhancing as, say, technical skill, communication skills [empathy, leadership..], wellness,

Even physical talents can be more valuable .. as good looks don’t help you become a trainer.

Good looks (esp. for young women) offer an unbeatable advantage during the dating years. (A beautiful girl really needs to maximize her advantage and find a reliable husband. ) After the dating years, good looks lose value quickly. You can find value in it only by restarting the dating game.

Many say that good looks can help you make it to the modelling/acting profession, but I think it is overrated. Good looks are very common.

Contrary to popular belief, good-looking salespeople, and esp. men, do not have a net advantage, for most products. Sometimes your good looks help you attract attention, but once the prospective buyer pays you the attention, he or she may be distracted by it when you try to explain your product.

Online commercials .. often feature good-looking _and_ knowledgeable trainers. They do enjoy an eye-ball advantage. First time a viewer is distracted by the good looks, but not the second time.

pre-school teaching .. good-looking female teachers have an advantage as kids are drawn to them.

People with good looks but not other skills tend to display an air of inferiority.