[07]Buddhism among other medicines

(To be published on my blog)

> I bought/downloaded and am reading the buddhism books you recommended. I try not to rush. Got confusion. One big problem is how to
> incorporate “buddha's teaching” into modern day to day life. at workplace you need to hold your opinions so as to survive or
> advance. it's easy to get frustrated or angry. what do you do and think in these cases, say, to try to be more patient, in terms
> of “buddha's teaching”?

Actually, my own frustration was the subject of my simple Christianity study. Did I tell you i compile a list of “Thank God …”
when I feel frustrated with what I get in life? Again, I have done this more than 10 times. I guess this is how I manage to
“incorporate a bit of Christianity teaching into modern life”

I feel anger and impatience is better treated with Buddhism than Christianity. If you ask me to pick the most effective and valuable
medicine for the modern man, I'm a bit biased in favor of Buddhism, as compared to Christianity, Confucius, laughter/humor,
optimism, “positive attitude” and other ideas of American popular psychology. I realize I just don't have the time (therefore
biased) to study each of these schools of thoughts. It's possible that one of these works better (than Buddha's teaching) for you in
some special context.

So How do you apply any of the ancient teachings on “greed” or “peer comparison”? Give some real stories if you can.

fail`2plan=plann2fail

This bpost was extracted from unhealthy longevity

Financially, many people aim lower but end up outliving their nets eggs. I think they become dependent on family members (if they have kids). Many have adult children who struggle financially even without this added burden. Some depend on government or private annuities but statistically, the payout is usually insufficient.

My blogposts about A.Brooks also talk about planning for a late career.

— lifestyle choices affecting healthy longevity

The most fundamental and important aspect of “failing to plan” is wellness

Many in my cohort make lifestyle choices that are likely (by statistics) to reduce life expectancy by a number of months. When we hear that, we often laugh it off. We dismiss 6M (of life expectancy reduction) as negligible, given the numerous bigger factors that are often beyond our control.

I disagree. I believe statistics will prove that most of us die from biological causes such as progressive declines, not external reasons. Most longevity factors are actually within our “circle of influence”. (Even your genetic risk factors can be identified and managed — re Jolie.) Those “lifestyle choices” mentioned above are prime examples.

Life is unpredictable. Even if you do all the right things, your lifespan may still be shorter than average. Well, by the same argument,

  1. Do you tell your school kids to reduce study effort and rely on luck?
  2. Do you ignore dental hygiene and bet your teeth would survive all the “hazards” and last
  3. Do you refuse to drink milk or other bone-healthy foods and bet your young bones would grow well, and after middle age you will be free of bone issues?
  4. Do you skip annual car check-ups and trust your karma will protect you on the road?

PKX transfers #HSR^metro

PKX [PEK daXing] has subway and HSR. https://daxing-pkx-airport.com/transportation/

— tcost

  • Frequency .. Subway wins
  • transfer to taxi .. HHHHHSR wins .. closer to DJDJ
  • transfer to central subway network… both require 3 additional trains. HHHHHSR wins.
  • HHHHHSR is possibly higher speed.. but gate closes 5 min in advance.
  • ticket purchase .. can be done in advance for HHHHHSR
  • .. Both tickets are  easy to get. Subway ticketing is fully automated.

— ticket cost .. LG2
HSR .. varies Rmb 21~30, slightly cheaper than subway R35

trust`long-term service providers

I hope this bpost remains relevant for 3 years. I created this bpost for expressive writing…

— opening eg: Precepts Legacy
I openly questioned how long this company would survive, and  I decided to trust this team of individuals to take care of my paper will and its execution, over many decades.

No better choie… much better than self-management.

“Company” is just a concept. What I trust is the team of individuals, their system of training, succession planning, stewardship of my paper will,,,

— eg: DJDJ …  no need for decade-long trust in this provider, but changing provider is not realistic.
Many people report that China nursing homes are not trustworthy. No better choice… better than 住家保姆. We (mostly grandma and me) picked a high-end /provider/ in a premium location, after we realized that my parents’ needS are numerous and impossible to satisfy 100%.

— eg: CPF vs SSA (U.S.) .. stewardship of our long-term assets

— eg: Meridian international

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pronounce tough Chinese char: wechat

  1. turn on handwriting. It is a special Chinese input keyboard
  2. use finger to /draw/ this unfamilar charcter
  3. If the software can detect it, a few choice will be presented.
  4. pick the correct character
  5. send it as a one-char message to someone who doesn’t mind
  6. in the sent message, tap n hold the character
  7. choose 搜一搜
  8. Given an internect connection, wechat will find info on this char, including the pronounciation

You can try searching before sending out the message

##peaking]%%life #Eng

Describing peaks in your own life is a form of subjective self-rating. I want to do it with a positive twist. A confirmed “peaking” is often negative. To counter it, this bpost will include some items that have not peaked.

( Rarely, a peak is unexpectedly followed by another peak, but for now I won’t focus on such a rare pattern. )

Multiple unrelated peaks tend to come in waves. Each 3-5Y window tend to see some peaks.

Q: what are some (up to 3) recent peaks over the last 5Y?
A: coding drill, c++ self study
Q: what are some of the “peaks” that aren’t real?
A:

How do we differentiate a real peak vs something that look like a peak? No consistent criteria so far. I would say a real peak should have no recovery within a year.

— easy work hours/workload.. Covid years are the peak
— quant study .. peaking before end of MSFM, perhaps 2012
— total comp
Probably peaking soon
ditto comp + benefits
annual bonus? A toxic question to look into. Let’s avoid it.
— self-esteem based on edu achievements .. peaking some years after 2016

— appreciation for my dear wife … growing
— joyous intimacy .. improving, even though I need pills
— bonding with boy .. not peaking
coaching effort .. improving

— investment diversification? reduced with HY/PE and Rbh
— NNIA .. not peaking
Aha: quality of my NNIA .. improving. Fewer HY/PE. More SGD DIR

— quality of sleep .. not peaking. Improving from my 30s
— 5/wk workout absorbency? Not yet peaking
— jogg frequency .. peaking during covid. I now think frequent jogg is possibly not ideal
jogging distance .. not peaking
— chin-up .. peaking during Bayonne

Q: did Americans discriminate against%%Eng

Related Q: Do Americans discriminate against Australians with strong accent?

I would say minimal. Basic criteria — if you can 1) speak English enough to be understood and 2) write English enough to make your points, then Americans would accept your English.

In many big American cities, non-native speakers account for 15-30% of local population. Singaporeans are among the best non-native speakers.

Similarly, do mainlanders discriminate against Hongkong or Malaysian Chinese on their oral/written Chinese?

I would say the written form is rarely subject to ethnic discrimination.

U.S.online story: FIRE+conserver lifestlye

The story is authentic, believeable. The author is not out to sell anything. I choose to believe her.

I admire the father’s conserver lifestyle and simple lifestyle.

I also agree with her about purpose, social engagement ,,, during retirement phase.

The cancer and early death are unrealted to lifestyle or FIRE.

[24]!!choice but retired@58 {PIP #online story

k_rikigai_via_nonprofits

I decided to trust the authenticity of this story.

https://www.businessinsider.com/retired-early-put-on-performance-improvement-plan-2024-4

After working for nine years as a communications specialist for a healthcare association, I was put on a performance-improvement plan during my 10th annual job review. “Has my performance changed so much from my last exemplary review?” I asked, knowing that my previous review had been conducted by a former boss who was no longer at the company.

As a result of the PIP, I was sent to human resources to fill out paperwork outlining how my boss would closely supervise my work. I had three months to improve. As a 58-year-old, I worried about what this would mean for my career, but it became an opportunity for me to retire early.

I signed all the paperwork with HR and went back to my boss. I wanted to ensure she understood what was happening and get additional guidance on avoiding termination. I started to get nervous. After an uncomfortable meeting with human resources the following day, I left the company voluntarily.

I didn’t want to stick around to see how this situation worked out because I already had enough information to know my days were numbered. Leaving my job with no plan was unsettling. My normal approach would not be so rash; I prefer to have a plan and know my next steps. I was especially worried about my financial situation. (r-ikigai, social interaction,,,)

[victan: I would wait for severance package. I would also use the 3 months to look for next job or prepare for job loss.]

— I had several interviews, but I felt forced to retire —
Shortly after I left my old job, I worked part-time for a vendor I had previously done business with. I eventually started applying for full-time positions and going to interviews. Many of these interviews went well but somehow never resulted in an offer. I wondered if it was because I was close to retirement age.

I could’ve continued working for the vendor, but the money was not worth the effort or the long commute. Meanwhile, my personal life was getting complicated. My daughter wanted help planning her upcoming wedding, my mother needed more oversight as she approached 90, and I craved more freedom to travel.

So, I decided to retire — in my 50s.

I’m younger than most retirees by almost a decade — which is a blessing and a curse.

I decided to keep freelance writing. I also started writing a longer project about my father’s teenage experiences as a Holocaust survivor, so having more time was welcome. In addition, I began volunteering as a docent at the Newseum, which brought me a lot of satisfaction.

Plus, being young enough to go on some adventurous journeys is a nice perk: I enjoyed going on safari and on bike trips to California’s wine country. It was also nice to have extra time to help plan my daughter’s and son’s weddings and be involved in all the pre-wedding activities. Having time to do what you want is a definite benefit of retiring young.

Sometimes, though, I wish I wasn’t.

I can’t help but feel I still have a few more years left of full-time work in me, so I sometimes regret retiring so young. I was cut off early from building up Social Security for a few more years, so from a financial perspective, I feel like retiring early has been detrimental.

I’m also worried I will quickly lose my grip on technological advancements. I kept up with those advances through work, but as a retiree, I’m worried I’ll fall behind.

— Either way, I wonder if my age played a role in all of this —
In the end, it all worked out, but I do wonder if my age is what caused all of this.

I won’t ever know for sure if I was put on a PIP because of my age, nor will I know if I struggled to find a new job for the same reason. But I now stand by my decision to retire and start a new phase. After all, I was given the opportunity to reinvent myself and try new things.

Retirement is a time of rediscovery and transformation, and exploiting that opportunity is the best way to win the game of life.

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