speak slowly when.. #stutter

Speak slowly when…

  • when speaking to someone new
  • when speaking on the phone rather than face to face
  • when speaking about something sensitive or important
  • when speaking to an audience
  • when nervous

.. no one speaks too slowly. I remember Roger Lee. Most people including me would speak too fast at least once a while

— In most contexts, it requires skill to speak slowly and in low voice. It’s a learnable skill.

In public speaking, this is the most valuable but challenging because pauses are unusual, and can really arouse the audience. Speaker needs an iron nerve to handle it.

— stutter .. If you have a tendency to stutter, then slow speaking can reduce it. If not eliminated, then slow speaking with stutter is a kind of unique personal style. It’s not perfect but it can be disarming and earn you trust.

avoid HIIT or long jog

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Dr Leow suggested 5 to 10km of jogging. If you want to monitor your hearbeat, then buy a sports watch or a chest strap

Avoid HIIT completely.

I believe any jumping acts in an aerobic class is higher risk.

Prof Lee of NUS .. death after a run
Sim Wong Hoo .. ultramarathon runner
A: too much running can be dangerous to some people. Marathon runners may not have low risk of heart failure. The only way to assess heart risk is a medical test.

##intensity short-bust cardio workouts

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/cardio-exercises-at-home and other sites offer dozens of short-bust cardio workouts, mostly boring, often tough, hardly sustainable. It was frustrating to push myself to do any of these on a monthly basis. They are useful mostly for

  • capture a power-surge
  • time-saving
  • variety

For most of the workouts below, Goal is to increase (through high intensitivy) the heart rate quickly, for a short window like 5+ minutes. The faster you do it, the more tougher.  For that purpose, upper-body-only is seldom sufficient. Even rowing requires some lower body.

— [d] downstairs .. I often feel better doing it downstairs, but some are easier to do than others
— [f] concentration needed .. perhaps injury hazards. Often requires counting, therefore harder to do it while thinking
— ex: climb Blk155 stairs
🙂 no shoes requried
🙂 minimal time wasted on commute
🙂 chance to bring kids
🙂 flexible intensity but may need more concentration
🙂 no need to keep count
I often feel climbing a slope in a nice outdoor location is more enjoyable

— [d] ex: jumping rope:
🙁 more boring
🙂 more gentle, can last a longer time to achieve cardio…

— ex: jumping jack
— [f] ex: mountain climbers
— [f] ex: inchworms
— [f] ex: squat jumps
squat is much safer and easier
— [f] ex: Screamer lunges
regular lunges are safer.
Lunges around the playground frees me from counting.
— [f] ex: Burpees:
🙂 more full-body than the jumping or squat workouts

70-mile/day≠role model

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See also my blotposts on coding drill, the wipe_out tag, yoga classes

The “role model” in the guy who ran 70 miles on his 70th birthday has a net negative impact on me. Not a helpful role model at all. It made me feel worthless, weak, guilty … even though (Reality X) I’m stronger, more determined than most people.

— case study: Stephen of Macq. He runs probably 3km each day a few times (4 or 5) a week. He deserves a pat on the back (plenty of self-reward, self-recognition, self-respect). However, when Macq formed a team to compete in some corporate challenge, Stephen didn’t make the team. I guess he wanted to.

Let’s assume that there were 5 other Macq guys fitter than him.  That’s the “reality Y”. Every one of us confronts such realities but what counts is how we react.  A lot of people are not sensitive or careful enough with the “self”, so they could easily pass hurtful remarks on the self … resulting in subtle , insidious self humiliation and self-mutilation.

In this context, there’s another (more important) Reality X — most folks in the world, in Singapore, or in Macq are way below Stephen in fitness or fitness habits.

We don’t need to benchmark with those 5 colleagues, but it’s possible that some of them actually lack Stephen’s fitness habits, but are younger or more talented.

(Between fitness condition (current) and a sustainable fitness habit, which is the bigger determinant of healthy longevity? )

So Stephen can choose to focus on Reality X and related positive facts, Or he can focus on the negative element and feel belittled, abused, down-cast…

And here’s a Reality Z — no one in Macq did abuse, belittle or down-cast him but his self2 judge. The pain is entirely self-inflicted.
— case study: my coding drill cf Rahul or the college students. Reality X: Most of them lack the stamina to maintain the drill over years.

— case study: my Macq bonus. It worked out to be the biggest annualized amount ever (Reality X) but I tend to brush it aside and focus on the negative facts.

— case study: yoga classes .. See also https://btv-open.dreamhosters.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=12301&action=edit&classic-editor

stay-in-shape: the real#1 challenge]wellness

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Opening eg: when i stop my regular yoga, the cumulative improvement tends to disappear faster than I want. Promethean struggle.

Too bad you can’t accumulate wellness like you accumulate wealth.

I ought to reward myself for keeping up the effort.

I ought to prioritize easy but regular exercise such as

  • 1m of yoga/day
  • some pull-up every other day

— jogging? Am (very) lucky that even if stop my 3-run-per-week I still can keep my endurance.
— pull-up … is the toughest strength exercise for me, but still I can “climb up” to 20 within a month or so.
push-up, sit-up … are easier.

##impossible physical feats I achieved{40

Each feat was once thought impossible for my body.

  • — half ranked:
  • chin-up: 30 reps without touch-down
  • curl-up: 10 reps without touch-down
  • 8 miles jog non-stop
  • forward fold holding toes, with knee straight and elbow relaxed
  • joining hands up-and-down behind neck
  • wheel pose
  • lotus pose achieved at Manila airport
  • On one or more 2019 flights from NY to SG, I didn’t need to sleep. On the Mar 2019 long flight from NY to SG, I didn’t watch movie, read magazine and studied/programmed the whole trip + 30 min of yoga.

yoga pose: modified^incorrect

“Right postures are important but Modifications are often necessary.” Saumik told me. Other yoga instructors often help me modify the posture, based on my limitations.

Q: but How do you tell the difference between a poor form vs a modification?
A: I don’t think we need a professional to devise the modifications. I would go with my own modifications.

women with Grade-A flexibility≠stronger than me

Those teachers who criticize my flexibility are invariably comparing me to females, never my mere-mortal male peers.

That lady with grade-A flexibility

  • faces higher risk of injury. Chair yoga teacher told me many examples. I guess it’s rare to see an individual both very flexible and very strong.
  • eg: she met many flexible (but not strong) women
  • eg: Many athletes and dancers have injuries…. often push to their limit and over-stretch.
  • may not be able to make a living as a yoga instructor, as Ankur could
  • may not derive satisfaction and self-esteem from her superior flexibility
  • may be poor in balancing, strength and endurance in yoga, not even considering endurance sports
  • may not have so much willpower.
  • is probably not going to win in any yoga competition, but why bother with competition? So why feel inferior to them?
  • enjoys yoga just as I enjoy jogging. However, in terms of cardio fitness and weight improvement yoga is ineffective, so if I must choose I would rather have the jogging advantage than the yoga advantage.

My self-knowledge advantage helps me put up with the negative peer comparison and keep going on yoga.

I have hypolordosis (reduced lumbar lordosis). I once imagined that if I could surgically sever some connective tissue in my lower back, then I would be able to bend forward “like them”. However, whatever is too short in my lowerback is still vital for my body. I am grateful to that piece, when I can swim, cycle, climb stairs, jog, squat, twist, side-bend, sit-up…