[[lifespan development]]: job competency

Lifespan development, as a subdomain of psychology, is centered on the self, rather than OC-effective, leadership, soft skills, communications, organization, interpersonal, and all the things emphasized in the corporate world. However the domain relies on objective, evidence-based, data-based looko methodology, rather than introspection.

Lifespan dev is fundamentally a comparative study of segments of the entire human population. There is often special attention on disadvantaged segments.

Lifespan dev is about self-mastery but more than that.

Lifespan dev is about personal and family wellbeing, not so much about community wellbeing.

— On-the-job effectiveness .. not a central theme in this domain, but examined as as a foundational factor in personal wellbeing. There’s no prejudice against the individual-contributor. In fact, many individual contributors derive more wellbeing from the same employer than some managers do.

The textbook provides a comprehensive framework. Based on this framework, I think other (possibly more fundamental) factors include:

  • (G3:=a top-3 factor)
  • G2 wellness and healthcare support
  • G7 stress coping capacity and habit; resilience
  • G3 family .. harmony, family support
  • education .. as a life chance determinant
  • G5 occupation .. (distinct from on-the-job effectiveness)  a meaningful, desirable job as reliable source of income, self-esteem, a vocation AND an occupation

Christopher Reeve

 


k_Kahneman

See also https://btv-open.dreamhosters.com/45310/blogg-topic-prefer-well-published-stories/

Q: If you were Robin Williams or a family member, would you prefer your friend to BB) die a quick, painless death soon after the accident, or AA) live the 10Y longer life that Reeve lived?

For many outsiders, we would choose BB… A short but glorious life like the NUS professor Lee Loo Hay. As Kahneman pointed out, PeakEndRule and DurationNeglect.

For Reeve’s children who were born before the accident, and his wife, the choice is clear. Kids need the father.

If I am the parent of a victim like Reeve, I would prefer AA unless my son is stuck in a comma. I would cheer him up (just as Robin did) and encourage his fighting spirit. For a fighter, there’s nothing to loose, and there’s so much to gain. The pain and suffering will subside over time, as Buddha observed.

Clearly, Reeve himself preferred AA. He fought for years to live longer, after he came to terms with this chronic condition.

— U-index .. (defined in this bpost) His U-index was probably no worse than ordinary people. This U-index is hard to comprehend because we outsiders always compare.. compare such a “limited” life with our normal lives. However, Reeve probably doesn’t live in that comparison. The comparison with his own past was probably not a constant backdrop. He had jobs to do, including parenting, film production, writing.

If you stay busy and focused on goals, then you probably end up comparing less. I assume those comparisons have a net negative impact on xpSelf’s wellbeing, and rmSelf’s wellbeing.

— side question: Is the disaster a white swan or a misstep? Not exclusively, but a combination.

My prediction — the more we perceive it as our own misstep, the less we attribute it to back luck or other people’s mistakes, the earlier we would come to terms with it, and take responsibility to rebuild our life.

 

[21]Silkair185+Diana: life evaluated

k_Kahneman

I feel U.S. investigators are more convinced (compared to Indonesian and Singapore authorities) of the suicide theory.

I feel most of the families would endure more pain if they choose to tune in to the suicide theory. A natural cause of crash is the most comfortable answer to hear. Perhaps the 2nd most comfortable is a mechanical failure that’s new and arguably unpreventable. When the families file a lawsuit against the manufacturer, I guess they are motivated financially, and don’t feel so bitter as if dealing with a murder case or conspiracy case.

— legal system: stringent requirements ..

If the Indonesian committee had concluded that Mr. Tsu committed suicide at the controls, it would have been effectively judging him guilty of murder, for which proof beyond reasonable doubt was required. “The amount of /circumstantial/ evidence is pretty overpowering and, frankly, everybody in the business thinks that this is actually what happened,” Mr. Learmount said. “But if you approach this in a completely legalistic way, the evidence that they have simply doesn’t prove what happened.”

The legal judgements have far-reaching implications. The judges have a huge responsibility of utmost impartiality. In contrast, the obligation for the court to reach a “lighter” conlcusion (like mechanical failure or negligence…) is much lower. No murder motive is required.

The incident led to several lawsuits in Singapore and the US against SilkAir, Boeing and other manufacturers of the aircraft’s parts. Many of these cases were eventually settled out of court (financially). The first trial took place in the Singapore high court in 2001, where the families of six victims sued SilkAir for negligence and sought higher damages than what the airline had offered. The basis of their lawsuit was that the pilot or co-pilot had caused the crash. However the judge dismissed the case; their subsequent appeal was also rejected. Most of the other families had accepted SilkAir’s compensation of between US$140,000 and US$200,000 per victim.

Boeing and several aircraft-part manufacturers were also sued in various US states by over 30 families of the victims. In 2004, in the first US trial, the jury in the Los Angeles superior court found that defects in the plane’s rudder control system were to blame and the court ordered the manufacturer Parker Hannifin to pay US$43.6 million to the families of three victims; neither Boeing nor SilkAir were found to be at fault. Evidence of the faulty rudder had been recovered in 2003. After news of the discovery emerged, Boeing dropped its claim that pilot suicide had caused the crash and withdrew its lawsuit against SilkAir, and SilkAir’s insurer likewise dropped its lawsuit against Boeing

— How (un)desirable is such a death experience? A victim had a terrifying [1] but quick passing. No prolonged suffering. For the xpSelf [experiencing self], the ending was swift. The entire body was torn to pieces within a split second. I am not even sure there was pain.

Kahneman described the fictitious Jen’s “painless death” in a car crash.

Princess Diana probably died a violent death and/or quick painless death, lasting several hours but she probably lost consciousness within seconds due to loss blood supply to vital organs.  How do people remember her? The ending does have a huge significance, exactly as Kahneman wrote. Some people point at Karma, implying that she was dealt a brutal death, but really? If a victim loses consciousness so fast, then the death is equivalent to an explosive death, just like James Bond’s glorified, painless death.  No punishment at all.

[1] Many older adults had short experiences of “Oh Am I getting killed within seconds?”. The prospect is actually less terrifying than many other death scenarios such as bleeding to death or hopelessly trapped somewhere like underground accident. We all see how animals suffer slow, painful deaths. That’s why we develop aversion to slow deaths.

The newspaper reader’s perspective is the rmSelf [remembering self]. In this perspective, the death is deemed unnecessary and therefore tragic. I think reader’s perspective is actually less important than the exSelf perspective, unless you believe the victim has a consciousness in afterlife.

Some family members may take either of these perspectives. If I lose a love one to a crash, I would focus on their xpSelf. That xpSelf was lucky to experience a quick explosive passing. If you have a faith, then I hope it helps you focus on the xpSelf and focus on the afterlife that your loved ones pass into.

I feel this blogpost is not something morbid. It’s one of my first honest and calm examinations of death.

RajatGupta’s wellbeing

 


k_rmSelf_vs_xpSelf .. k_def_of_success

based on https://openthemagazine.com/features/profile/rajat-gupta-grace-and-disgrace/

— Gupta hit a loss of reputation and successL, a huge blow to rmSelf, but not that much to his wellbeing.

To outsiders’ evaluation (rmSelf), the conviction (and failed appeals) is the defining feature of his entire life. So we outsiders tend to ignore all the wellbeing he had before and after that painful episode.

Jolt: In the cold light of day, “entire life” is much more than a single watershed event, unless the event leaves the individual with a permanent disability.

I would abandon the _simplistic_ outsider’s viewpoint and step into Gupta’s shoes, esp. his rmSelf. Apparently he has a clear conscience and believes that he didn’t break any law, but he accepts that the circumstantial evidence (against him) was overwhelming, more so than in the Silkair185 verdict.

The opportunity to tell his side of the story (via the book) is a huge relief for his rmSelf (also xpSelf), even if few Americans would believe it. His repuation in the American business community is probably beyond repair, but he is highly intelligent, and knows that his rmSelf’s pain is proportion to his attachment to that reputation, so he is mindful of attachment.

(Incidentally, given his visibility among 1.4 billion Indians, many would read his book, and 70%+ of those readers would have a better opinion of him consequently.)

Jolt: In terms of his wellness and family bond, his xpSelf didn’t suffer that much. He looks slim and fit. His family is still behind him. He still has friends and followers, esp. in India. Financially, he is still among the top 0.001%.

— For the billionaire Raj Rajaratnam, what I notice is the xpSelf’s suffering 1) in prison for 11 years 2) in illness

“In jail, Gupta would run into Rajaratnam, unwell and on dialysis with kidney problems.”

So the money, the fame, the power,,, are no compensation for the suffering of the xpSelf.
Jolt: I would not trade places with him, esp. given I have enough money for my life.

In terms of repuation damage or outsider’s evaluation of his entire life, Rajaratnam probably didn’t suffer as much as Gupta. Why, because he didn’t have successL [legacy, figure-head status, huge respect, mass-media image] before the downfall. Therefore, I guess his rmSelf may not suffer a lot, esp. when he looks back during his twilight years.

[19]feel`lucky+satisfied as bachelor,now again as married man

As a bachelor, I often felt lucky and satisfied due to my [income+savings]->ffree, and freedom from family burden — no kids no wife to worry about. I did sometimes envy those with a beautiful wife or girlfriend, but I never envied those with kids.

Among my peers in our early 30’s, it was rare to feel lucky so often. I’m amazed, in hind sight.

Cornerstone (more than a keystone) — somehow in my early 30’s I was rational, cool-headed enough to withstand the hazard/rampage of widespread but irrational peer comparison (keeping up with the Jones’s).

Fast forward to 2019. Now As a father, I frequently feel lucky and satisfied due to

  1. beautiful wife and kids — my #1 reason to feel lucky at this age. So after I got married, my perspective has changed completely.
  2. long-term prospect of a satisfying or good-enough career — on Wall St till 65
  3. ffree with multiple investment assets
  4. — other factors
  5. competence and relevance on job market
  6. vitality in body and mind
  7. … See the longer list in ##[19] living%%dream life,here-n-now #Detach, and remember to detach !

##[24]livelihood shield won’t fend off these”pains”

k_rmSelf_vs_xpSelf

When we Struggle against or Cope with multiple /issueuns/, we often envy the affluent. We imagine their lives are less stressful, less frustrating, less /burdened/. Actually, “carefree bubble” depends on many factors such as number of dependents, amount of belongings (baggage), support network (citizenship?). However, this bpost is focused on the factors of livelihood, such as affluence,,,

Even if well-provided-for and without livelihood hardships, some people (including my family-n-fiends) can feel real pains due to

  • physical pains and psychological pains .. phobia, anxiety, depression…
  • serious lack of self-discipline, or substance abuse, or addiction, in the self or a family member. Remember Biden’s son.
  • wasted personal potential? If livelihood fine, then the “waste” is tolerable?
  • failure in love relationships (incl. non-starter)… “Affluence” doesn’t meet this need.
  • chronic family conflicts .. eg: me vs in-laws; between grandparents; sis vs grandpa
  • injustice .. eg: MajesticVillage and https://tanbinvest.dreamhosters.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=24197&action=edit
  • gross unfair treatment … eg? Not winning a promotion or recognition for your contribution; Losing a /rewarding/ job for a bitter reason like personality, or unfair dismissal (K.Hu?)

Bias of hindsight and rmSelf.. I would say a lot of times such an “event” does cause livelihood issues “for a while”. Could be a few days to a few years. I guess many (rmSelf) dismiss the livelihood “stress” in hind sight, but in the midst of it the stress our xpSelf does feel non-trivial and permanent pains (just as covid19 threat felt like in 2020).

— Q: How about during the retirement phase .. will livelihood shield fend off these pains?

  • physical declines … are likely.
  • I may be more dependent on others
  • work headaches reduced, but we may miss the engagement, the purpose, the F2F interaction. I would rather stay employed in a light-duty job, and endure some non-trivial stress
  • Parenting pains reduced
  • family conflict may reduce due to smaller family
  • no more personal potential to waste