zsms – not hitting stadium

(Publish on 1330152open: Health)

“Your conscience (the zsms) can trick you.” Is it Valid to feel guilty that I have not been to the stadium for a few months?

Nowadays I’m busy with kids, ADE, UChicago prepration … Not as free as before. Instead of stadium, I chose
* basketball downstairs (with kids)
* playground downstairs (with kids)
* or even exercise at home (with kids)
* stretch lower body (with boy’s help), which doesn’t require the stadium:) * swimming pool on a monthly basis (with boy)
* short jog to office
* weight lifting using boy

feeling sorry for yourself – by comparing with high flyers

It’s trap — It’s really easy to feel sorry/unlucky about yourself (and the kids – poor things that could get a materially better life??). Just compare with the “high earners”.

 

Endless pain.

 

I once felt unlucky I couldn’t meet a pretty woman. That’s my #1 dream. Now I have a wonderful wife!

 

I (and wife) once felt unlucky when we had difficulty conceiving. Now we have 2 beautiful kids.

 

Somehow I never feel like comparing with older or younger peers. I mostly benchmark with Chinese guys around my age. Fundamentally arbitrary. It’s nothing but excuses.

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the chipaway technique to GetThingsDone

Situation: I committed myself to fill up the PR forms this weekend. At this moment, I find myself more interested in math or

exercise (2 arguably more important goals). Should I change course? I feel it depends on many factors – urgency, level of difficulty

vs level of motivation, … I feel it's a good idea to focus on result i.e. “laser output”.

Problem: guilt

Solution:

Problem: slow progress

Solution: accept it. Notice it's better than no progress

Tip: capture the impulse energy

favor modest goals #minimum-resistance

–case – tooth brushing: I can choose to set myself a short-term goal of

A) “go to the bathroom and pick up the brush, even if without paste” or

B) “go to the bathroom and pick up the brush, and put paste”

In either case, the implicit pressure is — if you pick up the brush then you must brush for 10 sec or more.

Now, that pressure is a challenge, a real resistance, and a non-trivial problem to overcome. However, I don't have a way to remove

that pressure. It's part of Both choices.

Now, B entails another implicit pressure — “the brushing has to be longer — once you put paste in your mouth you would have to

rinse”. This pressure can be removed if you choose A. I believe no dentist would advise A over B. However, By taking A, I increase

my chance of going to the bathroom and picking up the brush. That makes a real difference when I'm very tired and demotivated.

–case: pull-up. I can set myself a modest goal of

A) “stand up, walk to the bar and do at least half a pull-up”

B) “stand up, walk to the bar and do at least 5 pull-ups”

–case: go to the stadium, even if 5 minutes before closing, even if no jogging at all.

–case: open a c++ IDE and spend 1 min coding

celebrate every small achievement this weekend

These aren't likely to be enuf to make my goals, but remember the old man moving the mountain? A thousand-mile journey starts with 1

step.

* went to stadium twice, with boy

* clocked at least an hour of c++ coding on Fri and again Sun nights

* fixed non-functional run-config for my c++ project

* brought boy and wife to a movie

* planned home payment

* reviewed and discussed wardrobe design

* went to office and did some work.

* at least an hour of linear algebra

what may motivate me to start coding again?

In my perception, one of the “biggest rocks” is getting more exercise, not only cardio, but c++ coding too. Sometimes the “rock”

feels so big that no matter what I do, i can't get myself any exercise. I admit it's a motivation and priority issue.

Setting aside 5 min a day might help …
Getting a computer set up and always ready with the necessary tools might help … Imagine a separate room…
Bring the IDE to library helps.
Icecream or chocalate might help.

Freeing up time might help….I feel I need a 1-week vacation to “drain out” the chores and have real capacity left for serious
coding.