I forgot why we should avoid putting two categories

wife’s SCS screening test

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Background: (observing my parents) as we get older, we tend to struggle to keep track of things, esp. long-running commitments. We get overwhelmed by the multitiude of obligations.

( This bpost links up many topics, but may lack a coherent subject. Still, it is useful for now. I hope to add important reminders into this bpost. )

As of 2024, I rely on self_reminders [blog + gmail + calendar].  In general, it’s a very good idea to train ourselves to grow more self-reliant not only in school. I’m probably good at self_reminder but so is my dad in his younger years. When I lose my capacity for self_reminder, I may choose zqbx (自强不息) or I may have to accept my decline.

eg: rent payment, tax/utilities… helper_reminders
eg: self_reminder alarm clock vs parents as helper_reminder. Consider catching a flight or going for an exam…

— big brother as helper_reminder .. gov, employer, service-providers. Singapore gov is slightly better than U.S. gov.

— domain::travel [hotel,,,] lots of self_reminders needed.
I’m good at ctbz to optimize t$cost. Many people are unconcerned about the t$costs.

— domain::healthcare
Nursing home residents need a lot of helper_reminders.

I rely on self_reminder for my medication.

Many people neglect a specific health screening test, even after they find themselves in high-risk group (高风险人群). For shringles, I got vaccinated as soon as I learned from my dad. I didn’t rely on self-reminder 🙂

— domain::work
On most jobs, there are always plenty of helper_reminders

If you commit many mistakes and rely on other people to find them…. not good.
If you often miss your deadline and rely on other people to remind you… not good. Self-reminder much needed.

eg: personal assistant for senior leaders

— the binary framework .. (I like binary rather than 3-part frameworks) .. self-reminder vs helper_reminder
Definition: reminder is about completing a task in time.
Definition: Helper_reminder has a human element. (Some of those smart systems might come close.) We all know that humans are error-prone, but I choose to accept that.

self_reminder .. part of self-management, and a constant source of stress, esp. when self_reminder fails .. see penalty section.

sys1^sys2 .. I often find helper_reminder an effective relief for my sys2. Sfelf_reminder is an obligation and stressor to sys2. Responding to helper_reminder is a sys1 task, and much easier than self_reminder. I think this becomes important as we grow older.

— realized penalty .. is a (painful) third type of reminder but I won’t list it as a third type.

eg: forget to charge mobile phones before going out… a G3 failure of self-reminder. Most of the time penalty is a minor inconveience, but penalty can also be serious like unable to log in or get into a facility.

For late payment penalty Only, half the time you can appeal and reduce the penalty.

Sometimes, you receive the penalty from “Mother Nature” and can’t appeal .. like health decline, or investment oversight, or forget-to-buy/sell …

Many ineffective individuals (sometimes me too) fail to learn the hard lessons from past penalties, and do not develop a self_reminder system.

• — A minor penalty can qualify as a helper_reminder
• late fee for tax, credit card, utility bill
• Giro failure