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the TACTICAL motivations and rewards are part of “target+control” process.
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[23]dabao wanted2b a bus driver

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Hi,

I told grandpa Dabao’s stated plan to work as a bus driver or 7-eleven shop assistant.

Grandpa replied “挺好。不好高骛远, 是好事。新加坡老百姓大多数为中低层收入。像你这样高收入的是少数，不能要求你孩子也像你.”

I told grandpa that most low-pay blue-collar workers in Singapore are worker-permit holders from China, India, Malaysia, the Philippines, or other SEAsia countries. Singaporeans seldom accept those blue-collar jobs. Grandpa said 这些外籍民工, 也可以安居乐业。I said we tend to ignore these foreign workers as if they don’t exist, and we compare with white-collar only. That’s unfair.

Grandpa agreed 不应该瞧不起蓝领，或外籍民工.

I said 很多发达国家，比如日本，美国都尊重蓝领工人，赞扬他们坚守岗位，尽职尽责。他们是社会主体, 和谐社会的基础。

Many African Americans often (upbringing) take pride in their blue-collar jobs. It’s an honest job that supports a family, which also supports a nation.

So if Dabao aspires to be a bus driver or shop assistant, I will support him. It’s better than having no concrete, realistic vision.

image scann #cropp

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— Grayscale .. middle ground between color and b/w. Bigger files than b/w.

— cropping .. J4: Original image often has too much margin like 70%. Cropping trims huge margins.

However cropping often increase file size if performed in MSPaint, but not sure about MSOffice

Assuming bigger footprint is inevitable, we face a tradeoff between …. footprint vs image convenience.

 

[16] Yixin – NOT lazy boy

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Granted, there are many kids (esp. under China parents) more hardworking. We don’t have to compare with them.

Granted, I was possibly more hardworking at this age. Some would say that in high school I was more hardworking than anyone else (but I didn’t become so successful at work.) Yet I beat myself up in Shiyan and HCJC for laziness. See self-rating by superhuman standard

See https://tanbintpy.wordpress.com/2016/09/09/reward-kids-self-responsible-effort-initiatives-not-test-score/ — Yixin isn’t lazy.

My best-effort fair assessment of our dear boy is –

  1. motivated though not the highest
  2. does daily homework consistently by himself though not efficiently and often procrastinates
  3. consistently willing to practice piano, from a minute to 20 minutes each time, but often inefficient compared to other kids. Some kids can put in more practice effort than he can.
  4. cares about benchmarks though not as driven and competitive as some kids
  5. more attentive in class than kindergarten days, though not the most attentive

I should really look at various stages of my own life. Right now I’m not really the most motivated, dedicated, committed, efficient …

P2 year-end report book says in its first sentence “Yixin is a hardworking boy.”

[21]stop pushing boy@academic motivation #Rahul

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Background — I told Rahul that my son’s level of effort is lower than his classmates’, despite everything we have tried. He is not fixated on the marks. There’s an abundance of Extrinsic motivators in Singapore, all tied to the test results, but they proved ineffective in the face of his heavy resistance.

Right away, Rahul suggested we try to build his “internal locus of control” i.e. the positive feedback loop linking effort and satisfying result. “Parenting by Logical Consequences”. We want him to experience, see, realize that his effort, not luck, not talent, not parents’ whim, is the real reason for the satisfying result.

Rahul suggested encouraging him on non-academic domains [1] where his resistance to “effort” is lower. Rahul said “(in N months) when he realizes the importance of studies he might come back to studies and apply himself”, drawing a “C” curve in the air.

I think grandpa also said something similar — “give him more time. wait for a few years”.

[1] How about piano, badminton, swimming,

Years ago, I also said that I wish to see one domain where he puts in effort consistently for a long time. Now I think Piano and badminton are success stories. Perhaps we can help him learn programming too, but it would take too much time — my time and his time.

Basically de-emphasize benchmark performance.

I have 51% confidence that U.S. (and Australian) systems are more natural at the primary school level. Some kids learn better in U.S. system, while other kids may learn better in the Singapore system.

mental image: HappyMediocreChild having limited zqbx

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k_X_power_descriptor

I need to keep this image of my kids. It is a good + practical goal

I can see that if academic pressure were lower (as in the U.S.), and his relative academic weakness were not so visible, then everyone would be happier.

In fact, I think his P1 and P2 years are just like that.

with numerical scores (not grades), situation would appear worse.

— For the long horizon, I have told myself to accept a happy mediocre child. This prospect feels similiar to my personal weaknesses in FOLB:
* Chinese compo weakness in Grade7-8
* limited leadership capacity

— For the short term, I need to accept a below-average level of zqbx, mtv, determination, confidence, drive, self-control, goal/desire…

Grandpa calls it immaturity.

碌碌无为^successE^successZ #xpSelf

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k_Kahneman k_def_of_success

See also

Executive summary of a paradox

  1. 碌碌无为 can imply laziness i.e. failingZ. This is a real concern to me (and many people around me), requires active intervention.
  2. 碌碌无为 most often means failingL, but this is a non-issue to me, at this stage. 99.9% of us are actually 碌碌无为. YY.T agreed with me on successL
  3. 碌碌无为 , but with successE and successZ .. is pretty good, even admirable!

Influenced by my dad, I often feel 一事无成, 碌碌无为, 胸无大志 in terms of successL[lasting achievement]. However, under scrutiny, most of the role models are also 一事无成, as measured against successL. See list below.

  • your tech innovations .. (even patented inventions) most of those in my domain suffer tech churn, in the ruthless march@technology. Similar situations:
  • .. innovative financial products, financial services
  • .. marketing innovations
  • your math discoveries.. tend to last generations and bear the mathematicians’ names. Math is the extreme case in terms of long-lasting legacy
  • your literary works .. mostly get forgotten in a sea of similar publications, after waves and waves of new publications. I think electronic publications, often in video or game formats are crowding out the traditional literary (print) publications.
  • if you build a company .. then how long can it last? Biggest lasting impact would be job creation.
  • if you build either a publisher, a broadcast platform, a social media network, or an advertising network (Goog, FB, Baidu etc) then what innovations do you create? The more digital, the worse you will feel in terms of competition, shelf-life and lasting value.
  • OC-effective guys .. are 一事无成 by default

Now I think 碌碌无为 mostly refers to successL and successC.

— xpSelf ^ rmSelf… The rmSelf’s life evaluation is usually 碌碌无为 , based on exclub (peer benchmark), but I think such an evaluation ignores the xpSelf. The xpSelf can experience a boring, uneventful decade, which is not easily achieved and requires lots of karma + non-trivial effort.

I really want to celebrate uneventful 碌碌无为 lives. Many parents want the same for their kids when they say “I just want him/her (xpSelf) to be happy” rather than “great”.

— My Shiyan + WallSt peers may point out that my evidence of personal success (re letter to wife) is a glorification of mediocrity, 胸无大志, in comparison with the semi-highflyers in terms of successC [income, brank]. I reject those yardsticks. My “personal success” was based on other yardsticks such as successE and successZ [自强不息 self-improvement]

  • How about ERE author Jacob?
  • How about Rong.Zhu?
  • How about XingHe vs WQ.Luo

How about an average general practitioner (or a board-certified lawyer/accountant/engineer) of my age? Mediocre, 胸无大志,,, but the Chinese conventional wisdom regards him as somehow more success than me .. why? Largely because of income exclub i.e. successC.

— battery .. is related to 碌碌无为 because successL requires accumulation.
— Q: is it shameful (for me or my kids) to end up 碌碌无为 but stays frugal and healthy, take care of the body given by our parents, enjoy a relatively uneventful life (at least for the 2nd half)? Is this successZ?

I guess my wife’s cousin Zheng might be one example. I guess his parents wanted it this way and had no regrets. Ditto my parents.

Such a life meets my successE criteria, iFF you can achieve it. I think this life is not easy to achieve, esp. “healty” and “uneventful”. Every life is /punctuated/ with tragedies, swans+missteps, wasted potentials, unfair treatments,,,,

Japan’s irregular jobs, n those young graduates trapped therein

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— Based on https://www.theatlantic.com/business/archive/2017/07/japan-mystery-low-birth-rate/534291/

POSSE ( a group formed by young college graduates who wanted to create a labor union for young people) calculates that irregular employees earn on average about $1,800 a month, but spend much of that money on rent, paying back their college loans, and paying into Japan’s social-security program.

According to the POSSE leader, an influential writer, about a quarter of Japan’s college graduates—a proportion that roughly corresponds with the share of students who go to big-name universities—are set for life, working in good jobs. Everyone else is struggling to find a stable employment. “Men in their 20s, they don’t have an idea of having families or a house… Most of them feel that it’s just not a reality.” The photo above, from the article, is subject to interpretation. The young man seems to be one of the “struggling majority”, looking to cross the /chasm/ into the land of stable, dependable employment. He can keep trying to get into a permanent job, but I speculate that after a certain age(35?), those hiring teams won’t see a lot of potential in him. 少壮不努力, 老大徒伤悲

— exclub
Q: in the grand scheme of things, how miserable are those “struggling” Japanese graduates?
A: I would say “not too bad” given Japan has a mature, functional welfare system, if they ever fall through the cracks. Most of them are well above that cash-flow low ground. Compared to the older Japanese workers, these graduates are young (therefore in-demand), healthier…
A: where they fare poorly is exclub… the “lucky quarter” is an exclub.

basketball: %%years@practices→mediocre player

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In my high school, there were a few focused self-practices that failed to create a visible lead over my peers

  • English
  • fwd bend
  • basketball? I improved my drible and shooting significantly but not enough for a competitive game.
  • leadership
  • humor, esp. with girls

How did I react?

How can my son learn from it?

Despite the “no growing lead”, I would say I have reaped dividend for years iFF I let go of the fixation on “lead” and look beyond the competitive scene. I was able to enjoy basketball much more, and take part in many non-competitive games. My fwd bend is a good part of my tight Y-junfction.

intrinsic mtv]student++

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— too academic?
In a real context, An individual’s motivation is often influenced (or determined) by a mix of internal and external factors. If a motivation is vague then not worth analyzing. If it has a non-trivial internal factors, then I would classify it as intrinsic motivation.

If I consider some motivation Int or Ext, it doesn’t have to agree with another person’s view.

—  Contexts: 1) my children 2) my endeavors 3) people in general