not strictly school testable content
In U.S. I said schools rated 5 to 7 can be conducive for my son. (See other blogposts for details.) Now I would say SG average schools are even safer, stricter, but not necessarily more conducive than U.S. schools, due to academic pressure.
U.S schools may have better teachers. In terms of teaching talent, Singapore is not higher.
u.s. pop culture (esp. for kids) is dominated by individual heros powered with determination, optimism, perseverance, fighting on the uphill, against all odds …
However, the enemy is a natural adversity (including a biological limitation), or a villain. The enemy is seldom some competitive exam, man-made… Fake enemy, fake achievement.
When we talk about the academic kids including a lot of China kids, we always feel they are superior. There’s not one measurable positive attribute I can point out about my son. This is completely lopsided.
Rationalize, Clarify and reinforce my observation:
Q: what are the signs that he is giving up too early, and what are the “opposite” signs that he has tried enough but had no good clue?
A: concentration
Q: what are his signs of math-practice fatigue? Remember I also have fatigue with many practice subjects such as trigo
我下半年回新工作后， 会逐渐减少大宝的繁重作业， 因为对孩子学习帮助不大 （但不是零）。
Q: is it inefficient due to feet-dragging? Yes
Q: Is he benefiting? Yes
比如数学难题， 做很多还是掌握不了。 也许他的同学能掌握， 那可能是他们能承受反复练习， 大宝没他们的耐力， 或许不应归罪为孩子的错。
数学这科我学的最久， 有自己的体会，观点。 我的决策，基于我的亲身体会和我对大宝的观察， 应该比老师更有根据。 老师的优势， 在于对同年龄学生的了解
【2019/8月】 和奶奶讨论，认为关键问题是不求甚解， 囫囵吞枣， 照猫画虎，完成任务。其实一知半解，却自以为掌握了要领，一考就没了信心，考试应用题经常瞎猜，碰运气 。考完了老师讲解过还是 一知半解，下次再考还是 瞎猜。
【20120/1月】大约一半的应用题， 还有大多数无文字地题目（包括图表、几何），大宝可以看懂。 这些应用题算基本应用题。 另外一半应用题是高级应用题，他最多一知半解，考试经常瞎猜，碰运气 。考完了老师讲解过还是 一知半解，下次再考还是 瞎猜。
【2019/8月】 应用题方面， 我的目标是
只有学完3 首曲子, 老师才能评估学生过关升级的可能性. 目前老师无法评估. 根据大宝的A/C 这两首, 我只能道听途说, 捕风捉影地猜测, 我觉得可能性在20% – 50% 之间.
就算没拿到 3 级证书, 这11个月的努力也有回报:
这 11 个月的时间(亲子投入)和费用, 花在别处也不大可能产生更高的价值. 尤其 #3#4 回报, 很难获得.
考官的要求可能很高, 但我们家长不必那么在乎. 依靠我们自己外行的标准, 如果大宝的3 首都流畅, 那就达到以上几个目的了.
When you sense your simmering frustration (反感) with ah-boy’s motivation, attitude, effort,,,, you should tell yourself to cool down for an hour and ask yourself
Q: Let’s Be honest, are you zen about the peer comparison rat race?
Grandpa is more zen.
I’m slightly more zen about the longer horizon than the shorter horizon. I CAN improve on both horizons.
See ## bmark aspiration≈similar t0…
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The gap in math benchmark is growing between dabao and those academic kids, mostly from China. I think Lianzhong, Jingheng and many China families that tuition teachers describe are in a different category. Their parents are more pushing and the students more talented in terms of
According to standardized benchmarks, the gap is rather large like … even the simplest problems for me was hard for my sister’s classmates.
However, At college level, you still need repetitive practices but less important. Therefore, regular kids may catch up.