· Stressor — no GC, harder to find next job, _b_u_t_ if I don’t mind 2 layers then easier

· Stressor — boy “effort” and engagement, _b_u_t_ we can give him time

· Stressor — housing cost in decent school districts, _b_u_t_ I have plenty of years; We can rent; I have decided to focus on conducive learning environment with engagement

· Motivator — improving c++ GTD/zbs

· Motivator — boy may fare better in U.S. system than Singapore System

· Motivator — the big-data projects often need java skill. I am more confident about java.

· Relief — I now have two countries as two choices

· Relief — once I get used to driving, many conveniences and choices