– i was not blaming her. i was pointing out what she is not doing.
– i gave a few concrete eg, better than nothing.
– i was not too repetitive. Some repetition is effective at driving home a point.
– i offered her some suggestions to improve her situation.

– i was not too emotional. Some emotion is required for the power and persuasion.

– i was not complaining about her as before.

– i identified that her most needed skill for self-help is inet research skill.

– i didn't make an impulsive decision like “this is unacceptable”

– After a while i was flexible enough to accept her suggestion

– i immediately accepted her “nap” argument

– i didn't repeat my answer “i try not to call you, but sometimes I need to.”

– gr8 effort: i did explain why i don't want to wait till I come home to communicate with her

– gr8 effort: i did wait for about 2 hours before calling her 2nd time.

– when i realized she was not in good mood, i was silent for a few seconds instead of blurting out some senseless remark