In my high school, there were a few focused self-practices that failed to create a visible lead over my peers

• English
• fwd bend
• basketball? I improved my drible and shooting significantly but not enough for a competitive game.
• leadership
• humor, esp. with girls

How did I react?

How can my son learn from it?

Despite the “no growing lead”, I would say I have reaped dividend for years iFF I let go of the fixation on “lead” and look beyond the competitive scene. I was able to enjoy basketball much more, and take part in many non-competitive games. My fwd bend is a good part of my tight Y-junfction.