The trigger — grandpa told me he would not understand the important details as he is now concentrating on his cancer battle.

On 5 Jan I told boy “Today after I witnessed the kicking and screaming at home, I took iPhone8 and escaped to office. I couldn’t concentrate to work. I had to spend at least 5 hours talking and writing to deal with this bloody phone issue. Similar to Grandpa’s situation, I don’t have infinite capacity to deal with this bloody phone issue.”

I realize that given the amount of sunk_tcost, I don’t have to spend even more tcost on this issue.

The simple fact — many 13-year old kids worldwide and in Singapore carry no phone. Why do I take on so much risk, stress and pain … for something so optional? You may ask “Are those negative effects real?”

— stress is real, at least in terms of anxiety and loss of control
— pain is real when there’s conflict, disappointment and anger
— risk is real