k_mellow k_def_of_success

See also

• 知足常乐/successE ^ successZ #fat-n-happy .. lots of overlap
• ##[20]peaceful leisure@waterfront park #image@GoodLife]U.S. and G3 common big stressors4peopleLikeMe
• ##[21]visibleGrowth plateau: #江河日下

This bpost needs more clarity, to avoid becoming yet another forgettable analysis.

TJ.Lin: comfort zone guarded by internal^external protections is a simpler, earlier version of the GG+BB framework. GG is an external driver of my 幸福. BB is an internal driver.

— /genesis/ and intro .. In Sep 2022, when grandpa once against said my 幸福感 was precious and admirable, I realized that my 幸福 [peaceful contentment, successE, fat-n-happy, carefree ezlife] is rare (among my cohort) in two ways — GG) “good life” BB) breakaway. Both are impermanent in the Buddhist sense…. but I’m slowly growing confident.

As to the English translation, I feel /contentment/ is the more apt word than satisfaction.

— GG) By many objective yardsticks (data-based), my current life is a precious good life, not common even among the WSt elite.

• devTill70 prospect
• family harmony… enviable intimacy for the time being
• BMI, small belly, despite aging
• cashflow high ground, livelihood/hardship as described to S.Liu
• commute
• two healthy children, in good schools.
• other factors listed in ##[20]peaceful leisure@waterfront park

However, I try to keep my feet on the ground — this “good life” is impermanent and utopian.

This “Good life” is more successE[cashflow, wellness, harmony] than successC.

— BB)  there are numerous imperfections in my “good life” that are commonly perceived as less-than-enviable, but as if by magical power I have progressively /neutralized/ and embraced them, and gradually mellowed up, breaking away from the common wrong priorities of the rat race.

Breakaway requires bold, independent thinking, honest and incisive self-evaluation, serenity, relying on self-knowledge advantage.

A small subset of the imperfections are listed below. Sometimes I perceive these imperfections as character building, tests of conviction, hard lessons.  Serenity is still badly needed whenever I find my blissful bubble derailed into a storm. There have been no big storm since 2018… reminds me of the long peace after WW2. A minor storm — boy in late 2023.

Crucially for my current 幸福 , my center of gravity is progressively shifting away from the wrong priorities [successsC, exclub,,,] towards wellness [including mental], successZ+E,,, I refer to it as a bold breakaway.

— Q1: What specific elements in GG or BB have improved (starting sometime in 2018) that give rise to my current 幸福感?

• (BB+GG) anxiety/disappointment about boy….  Boy improved, but more crucially, I mellowed up more than his mom.
• (GG) PIP .. appr by manager.
• (BB) FOLB… I had many discussions with S.Liu, YY.T.
  • dual_earning=THEIR main advantage over me
• — for decades, above are the big-3 derailers/stressors across my tectonic plates. Below are Additional items:
• (BB+GG) marriage, bonding with meimei
• (BB) 5/wk workout .. improving my successZ
• (GG) commute

For this bpost title, I chose “cornerstone” rather than “pillars”. Cornerstone is secure, not precarious.