bigger picture — In my parenting effort, if I don’t monitor my current ROTI, I would eventually feel the pain. Analog: if you don’t monitor your calorie/burn rate, you will eventually suffer/experience the cumulative effect.

Specifically, if some coaching effort is not effective (usually due to losing my cool), then cut losses right there, even if boy is suffering in numerous ways, even if I look like a quitter…

Basically, I can waste more time by trying to “help” him…. Sunk cost fallacy.

jolt: my deep (vague) disappointment with my renzi effort was largely due to the worldly, materialistic “progress”.
No progress, then i feel time wasted. That’s materialistic and sign of impatience.