k_X_focusing_illusion  k_soul_search

I get into crises anxieties far too often .. I guess it has to with focusing illusion.
Let’s be slightly more rational and ask ourselves — what bad news (or other events) should be considered a crisis? Let’s list up to 9 high-level categories. I think they all have some timeline.

• kids developmental problem
• medical condition that should not be postponed indefinitely.
• mounting financial loss
• family tension [marital, parenting]
• kids’ developmental [behavior] problems
• equipment out@service but actually needed. Counter example: the bedroom door repair can be postponed.

Here are some storms-in-teacup i.e. fake crises:

• ED .. growing difficulties .. There are many proven solutions, and I believe them.
• air-con issues except in boy’s room … We seldom use these
• work projects taking longer than “normal”
• boy’s overweight
• boy’s slow progress on piano
• cpf fund not earning enough return — but no urgency
• engagement honeymoon has ended
• my time allocation differs from my ideal — so what?
• my spare time is not generating enough ROTI — but when did it?
• my workout time has reduced — but any real effect on my health?
• visible result of my time spent on boy is far below my expectation — but real progress nevertheless
• fall-below fees

Slightly less often we notice a shocking deterioration in our life, but irreversible, hence no big change needed. What we need most is the serenity prayer.
* skin, hair condition, perhaps due to aging
* c++ programmers’ life becoming tougher on wall st
* growing population of younger, brighter developers in Singapore job market

Which individuals have the serenity and the discernment? Grandpa, Josh?