k_anger_mgmt

> I bought/downloaded and am reading the buddhism books you recommended. I try not to rush. Got confusion. One big problem is how to
> incorporate “buddha’s teaching” into modern day to day life. at workplace you need to hold your opinions so as to survive or
> advance. it’s easy to get frustrated or angry. what do you do and think in these cases, say, to try to be more patient, in terms
> of “buddha’s teaching”?

I brought from the Singapore temple a booklet on anger management “working with anger” by Thubten Chodron (her again!). I think it’s
also available for download on the same website. Let me know if u can’t find it. Another site

http://www.thubtenchodron.org/Publications/index.html also has some links to this booklet. I read this booklet every time my temper
gets out of hand. I have opened the booklet over 15 times, because it always helps me. It contains numerous pieces of “one-liner”
advice that I need to re-read over and over.

When I feel angry or impatient
– i try to take deeper and slower breaths
– i try to lower my voice
– i try to smile at people and myself, if possible
– i try to crack a joke
– i try to walk away from the people who made me angry, and come back later
– i try to drink some water:)

Some Americans believe we need to release the tension by letting out our anger and perhaps get the angry feeling out of our chest by
expressing it in a controlled speed and moderated words. Some Buddhists disagree. This is tricky. I think I’m not “wise” enough to
pinpoint exactly what Buddhism principle is at odds with it.

(“wise” is a key word in buddhism — zhi4 hui4)