penalty never motivated boy #natural consequence@@

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My theory – set clear rules. Be firm. Deliver the consequence. Parenting with Natural and Logical Consequences, but remain supportive.

Reality – frequently he lost motivation and gave up. He seems to respond only to rewards, not punishment including “no TV”. Faced with such a consequence, he often refuses to do any work. I hope a buy-in on the target/consequence would fix it. Getting a buy-in is basically the art of persuasion and selling.

Most (if not all) form of penalty doesn’t work very well in reality. I think the theory must be adjusted for reality.

I hope “natural” consequence is different from penalties like “no TV no going out”.