– i trid to control my words and stopped some of the things i was about to say
– in the early stage, i did realize the importance of compassion on the self as a bedrock. I was carrying the crushing load of
guilt.
– i did observe her feelings. I guess i was more observant of my own feelings.
– i said repeatedly that i myself have serious shortcomings.
– i looked for Buddhist guidance
– i offered a glass of water
– i left the scene and lied down to reduce physical tension in my body
– i turned on BBC as a diluting agent