I find this BeP principle tough. (By no means the only tough parenting principle.)

The contract requires lots of engagement [negotiation, enforce, explain,,,]

— In Oct 2023, I happened to read a 2016 [[ParentingTeens]] article about Lecrea. One quote of Lecrea struck me “Be present and engage …”

— Ramya .. heard my story after Sec3 exams. She said basically 3 words — “Be with him”. I think that means no judgement; no criticizing; No pushing; Be supportive; Be present.