Thanks so much. Allow me to focus on your tip for me (Will reply to other parts of your email another day.)

“Pay attention to what your managers wants, and you should be able to handle it very well” — i will print this out and paste on my wall. I failed to really really get what my manager wants.

I often feel justified to concentrate on presenting my counter-arguments, but such concentration could affect the level of attention on listening. Perhaps as a result, i listen selectively and superficially.

Perhaps I listen selectively and superfically to most friends, family, users and colleagues.

That’s bad, but it’s worse when it’s with boss.

Action points:
* I will build up a reputation as a “good listener”, first with colleagues then with family.
* I will become a better listening boss for my future subordinates, than my boss is for me.
* I will speak less when talking to boss
* I will take more notes when talking to boss
* I will become a better listening husband for my wife, than my dad was for my mom
* One day I will become a better listening dad for my son, than my dad was for me
(My dad is a good listening husband and father.)