Non-pen intercourse is highly recommended for older people, as penetration becomes increasingly difficult. You can use medication or workout to fight it (zqbx) or consider alternatives (like non-pen), with a sense of serenity. I think it’s not passive acceptance.

Now at age 48, I feel luckier than in my 30s. At that time, non-pen ejaculation was utterly fake, ineffective for the main purpose of intercourse i.e. procreation.  It felt bad even if it was satisfying and met the sexual needs.