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See also my blotposts on coding drill, the wipe_out tag, yoga classes
The “role model” in the guy who ran 70 miles on his 70th birthday has a net negative impact on me. Not a helpful role model at all. It made me feel worthless, weak, guilty … even though (Reality X) I’m stronger, more determined than most people.
— case study: Stephen of Macq. He runs probably 3km each day a few times (4 or 5) a week. He deserves a pat on the back (plenty of self-reward, self-recognition, self-respect). However, when Macq formed a team to compete in some corporate challenge, Stephen didn’t make the team. I guess he wanted to.
Let’s assume that there were 5 other Macq guys fitter than him. That’s the “reality Y”. Every one of us confronts such realities but what counts is how we react. A lot of people are not sensitive or careful enough with the “self”, so they could easily pass hurtful remarks on the self … resulting in subtle , insidious self humiliation and self-mutilation.
In this context, there’s another (more important) Reality X — most folks in the world, in Singapore, or in Macq are way below Stephen in fitness or fitness habits.
We don’t need to benchmark with those 5 colleagues, but it’s possible that some of them actually lack Stephen’s fitness habits, but are younger or more talented.
(Between fitness condition (current) and a sustainable fitness habit, which is the bigger determinant of healthy longevity? )
So Stephen can choose to focus on Reality X and related positive facts, Or he can focus on the negative element and feel belittled, abused, down-cast…
And here’s a Reality Z — no one in Macq did abuse, belittle or down-cast him but his self2 judge. The pain is entirely self-inflicted.
— case study: my coding drill cf Rahul or the college students. Reality X: Most of them lack the stamina to maintain the drill over years.
— case study: my Macq bonus. It worked out to be the biggest annualized amount ever (Reality X) but I tend to brush it aside and focus on the negative facts.
— case study: yoga classes .. See also https://btv-open.dreamhosters.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=12301&action=edit&classic-editor