— update Xiong.Zou .. I only spoke to this fellow c++ de for a few minutes. He struck me as an interview rock star, similar to Venkat and Henry.Wu.
Because I care so much about my c++IV, I am very quick to classify fellow c++dev as “above or below” me. For the huge gap in my actual knowledge about a person, I let my _imagination_ fill in the details.
How about successE [cashflow ground, family harmony, wellness, WLB]? I don’t need higher income, given my successE.
k_tectonic k_X_FOMO_v_livelihood .. k_semi_kai3mo2
See also
- wake up1day..left behind the pack #serenity — similar sentiment
- not left-behind@Any front: real feat
- why I feel successful #le2wife #1400w — more complete analysis
- G4 Personal advantages: Revealed over15Y #byHalf
Over the decades, I have been held hostage by the envy for these groups of individuals
- MNC managers, OC-effective, like HY.Cai, YY.Tao, K.A #sinking
- c++ (and web2.0) interview rock stars
- start-up rock stars like Zhu Jiang
As discussed in OC-effective: overrated, these three groups of high-flyers are not necessarily successful by ANY definition whatsoever. I call them SEMI-high-flyers or questionable_Role_Model. They are good at that one game only. They don’t even make more money. If they do, their family Brbr is likely inferior to mine, and underwhelming in some cases.
Is there something in common among these groups? Well, introspectively, these are the biggest games I choose to play but not as well as they play. I felt so much envy exactly because I played seriously. In contrast, there are other games I chose to play but no longer so seriously:
- parents of academic kids
- owners of multiple properties
- husband of a beautiful (and thrifty) woman
However, I would point out a few games of higher “value”, in terms of family livelihood and satisfaction with my life:
- family harmony and resilience
- healthy, resilient, motivated kids
- healthcare provision — SG compares favorably with welfare states like Canada. See ##SG healthcare inflation Cushions #YJL. In contrast, majority of those semi-high-fliers are stuck with the expensive U.S. healthcare.
- Other social safety nets — SG compares favorably
- my own wellness and career longevity, as a major pillar for family livelihood.
- other defensive, resilience measures for family livelihood as in [20] list@Protections — those semi-high-fliers are unlikely to have these.
- brbr, FullerWealth (thanks to my nonwork income) — I suspect some of the semi-high-fliers are trapped on cashflowLowerGround, even if they have two incomes.
- efficient, comfortable commute
I would say the (c++, algo or java) interview game is still worthwhile. I play for honor, for self-challenge, for self-growth, for confidence-building, for resilience.