If my kid (meimei?) is genuinely weak in wordy problems, and lacks self-confidence, I would create uplifting words to build up his confidence.

Right now, Am doing the opposite — He is improving but am using harsh words to cut him in half. I do it due to his attitude/motivation.

Sherleen, grandpa and wife (over many months) all pointed out that my words (I would add “perception”) on Dabao’s math standard are too negative. I am at my worst when talking about pattern recognition in wordy problems. I use these words well before I lose my cool.

Grandma sometimes echos my negativity. Perhaps grandma’s attitude/perception is not a role model, but a negative example of anger management. However, It is unfair to put 100% of the blame on grandma. I’m (at least 90%) responsible for my own action.

Grandpa issued the gravest warning — my words would decimate dabao’s self-esteem, confidence.

Sherleen said “uplifting” after she noticed Dabao’s lack of self-esteem. Now I think that for some individuals, affirmative words are a key language of love. I should read the book (online) to understand this one language of love.