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See also 1st days back in office 

This “Group of big 3 damages” highlights the real priorities among priorities.

1. loss of private space (quiet hours) for reflective blogging and self care, but since late May 2020 I could go to MRT or bus interchange
   • the #1 most critical situation — family conflict. Lockdown results in Loss of harbor. In the form of office or MRT (later the bus interchange), the harbor had become a critical resource I depend on, similar to my son’s dependency on electronic devices.
   • A separate room did make a real difference, after grandparents left. Even though it is 10% as effective as office, this 10% is a Big Deal !
2. bonding with boy — I had more frustrations, and more bursts of temper, until May.
3. loss of opportunities to capture absorbency power-surges. I rely on these power surges to compete.
   • work projects, localSys
   • QQ
   • exercise, yoga
4. — beyond g3, unranked
5. diet and BMI loss of control
6. sleep — my late hours often lead to poor sleep the next morning, with noisy kids.
7. loss of exercise opportunities — absorbency, facilities, until I found the jogging tracks.
8. no family outing, until we found the PCN at Lorong 8
9. yoga
10. standing desk usage

— Some of the unexpected triumphs:

• More positive perception of wife’s parenting practices
• I learned to accept my kids’ misbehavior — ignore, or become detached observer
• jogging
• repaired many things at home
• wrong-time temptation at home meal time
• intimacy with wife