k_rmSelf_vs_xpSelf
When we Struggle against or Cope with multiple /issueuns/, we often envy the affluent. We imagine their lives are less stressful, less frustrating, less /burdened/. Actually, “carefree bubble” depends on many factors such as number of dependents, amount of belongings (baggage), support network (citizenship?). However, this bpost is focused on the factors of livelihood, such as affluence,,,
Even if well-provided-for and without livelihood hardships, some people (including my family-n-fiends) can feel real pains due to
- physical pains and psychological pains .. phobia, anxiety, depression…
- serious lack of self-discipline, or substance abuse, or addiction, in the self or a family member. Remember Biden’s son.
- wasted personal potential? If livelihood fine, then the “waste” is tolerable?
- failure in love relationships (incl. non-starter)… “Affluence” doesn’t meet this need.
- chronic family conflicts .. eg: me vs in-laws; between grandparents; sis vs grandpa
- injustice .. eg: MajesticVillage and https://tanbinvest.dreamhosters.com/wp-admin/post.php?post=24197&action=edit
- gross unfair treatment … eg? Not winning a promotion or recognition for your contribution; Losing a /rewarding/ job for a bitter reason like personality, or unfair dismissal (K.Hu?)
Bias of hindsight and rmSelf.. I would say a lot of times such an “event” does cause livelihood issues “for a while”. Could be a few days to a few years. I guess many (rmSelf) dismiss the livelihood “stress” in hind sight, but in the midst of it the stress our xpSelf does feel non-trivial and permanent pains (just as covid19 threat felt like in 2020).
— Q: How about during the retirement phase .. will livelihood shield fend off these pains?
- physical declines … are likely.
- I may be more dependent on others
- work headaches reduced, but we may miss the engagement, the purpose, the F2F interaction. I would rather stay employed in a light-duty job, and endure some non-trivial stress
- Parenting pains reduced
- family conflict may reduce due to smaller family
- no more personal potential to waste